Explaining PDA to ds (7)

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I have been wondering how to go about explaining PDA to our son. He is 7 and intellectually very capable but emotionally immature. I have been talking to him about the things he finds difficult, eg. Taking turns, understanding how other people feel, managing his anger etc. and have told him that although a lot of people don't have problems with this there are many that struggle like him. I have mentioned that all people's brains are different but that people like ds have autistic brains, which means they think in a particular way.
I would really love to find a book to explain the concept a bit more but ones I have seen like 'all cats have aspergers' bring up lots of points like routine that aren't relevant to ds. Is there anything more relevant to PDA anywhere?

Hello hhp, [wave] I had looked at that book but with no reviews and no 'look inside' there's no way of knowing if its any good. If you recommend it though i'll get it.
I have looked at a news round report called My autism and me www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b01773m7
It shows that autism is very different in different people so I think that will be good.
They have asked at school how to handle ds being treated differently eg. Not going to assembly or doing PE in the hall and what they should tell the rest of his class. I'm not quite sure how to tackle it.

I'm also in a similar position. My DS doesn't have a diagnosis as yet but alot of the experts believe it to be PDA.

I would love to find a book/leaflet that explains his ways and something that could get me talking to him, without him feeling like he's lost control.

He doesn't like to acknowledge his weaknesses so its very difficult.

It does have a 'look inside' actually, I was on my phone before so it didn't show up. It looks pretty good.
I am wondering with school how to tackle it, they asked should they take ds off and have a whole class talk on it, my impulse was that that would not be the right thing to do, but what is? I want to be open about his issues as all school gate parents have witnessed his home time breakdowns and all the boys' parents saw a horrendously embarrassing, screaming and crying meltdown at a party a couple of months ago. So they must know there's something going on with him- they might as well understand exactly what it is. I've talked to four other mums of his classmates about PDA but I don't think any of them are major gossips so it probably hasn't spread too far (although if course, it will have got around a bit).
It's quite complicated to explain though, to adults let alone children so maybe I just stick to autism as an explanation (although will that lead them to make inappropriate assumptions- or worse 'she doesn't know what she's talking about- he hasn't got autism. I know x with autism, he's nothing like her ds. It's just an excuse for bad behaviour'.???

Just started a thread in chat, thanks.