asked for meeting this pm because we'd had a copy of DS' IEP and weren't happy because it didn't reflect what had been discussed and didn't have one of the things we'd asked for. Anyway, DS' new teacher who wasn't at the IEP mtg pretty much refused to remove the target we feel unhappy about and to include what we would like. She thought DS shouldn't be on an IEP and didn't have any needs. Then when I told her the paed. did think there was some cause for concern she said she'd defer to that, but seemed suprised and even more so when I said he had a SALT assess't next wk to look at his High Order function and imagination. I told her I was concerned re. DS' comprehension and processing of info. and said it had transpired that DS isn't understanding much of some of the stories he reads repeatedly. She looked at me and said she was v. concerned because i was obviously asking DS too many questions when I was reading to him and shouldn't I stop asking all these questions. I was really upset. It sounds so trivial but I felt undermined, as if she thinks we expect too much of DS, criticised. The irony is we aren't pushy parents at all - we keep saying we don't care if DS can write his name or not and aren't interested in that area. All we are interested in is his social communication skills. I'm feeling so upset and also confused now. Sorry to rant on, but I just feel like saying can we pull the plug on the IEP because it seems a useless process that doesn't value parent input.