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Aaagh terrible afternoon

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NeedToMoan · 29/05/2013 18:09

Had my lovely friend visit this afternoon with her dd (10), I have two ds, ds1 is 9 and ds2 is 5 with ASD. Sometimes they come round and he is great. Today was a nightmare. He stropped about everything. He complained every time friend's dd tried to play with something, like his toy cars. There were several tussels where she wouldn't let go of something and he kicked off wanting it, it was literally everything she played with. She was understandably not happy and complained that he wouldn't share anything, which he wouldn't. It went on and on and we finally admitted defeat an hour ago and they have gone home now. Friend was fine and understanding, she said she has explained to her daughter about him but she doesn't understand really. It shows me just how mature my 9 year old is with him really, he often placates him and gives in for an easy life or distracts him out of it. It was just one of those days where nothing was going to improve. I'm sure I could have handled it better but sometimes, it would be nice to have a normal day with coffee and chats and no kick offs. I just wanted them to go home really so it would end which is a shame because we have a lovely time normally. Oh well, rant over, that's half term for you I guess.

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NeedToMoan · 29/05/2013 18:25

Thanks zzzzz. Tbh nothing was going to make him happy today. I think it must be the rain! Last time they came he was lovely, he will probably get ill in the next few days and I will feel like a twerp for not realising. Said friend's dd does have the knack of bringing out the worst in him, but even so. He has significant language delay but it's come on a lot lately. Unfortunately in today's case. He was able to say in quite articulate terms who he doesn't like and who he doesn't want playing with toys in his house.

I probably need new strategies. In the shorter term, Baileys might be the answer Grin

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zzzzz · 29/05/2013 18:38

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NeedToMoan · 29/05/2013 18:43

Lol tee hee thank you. Well of course I was secretly thinking that too. Made me realise how mature my 9 year old can be.

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dietstartstmoz · 29/05/2013 19:08

sympathy OP-it sounds like our house. I agree, why cant the 10 yr old DD friend amuse herself? I know the feeling though. Sometimes I would give anything to be able to do things others take for granted. I recently met my friend with her two NT DD's, with my two DS's, ds2 aged 5 with ASD. He was a complete nightmare, screamed the park down and was completely unruly. With loads of people doing the stare at us.
Baileys is the answer

NeedToMoan · 29/05/2013 19:12

Oh, the stare dietstartstomoz. I love that stare. Baileys indeed..

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PolterGoose · 29/05/2013 19:57

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cansu · 29/05/2013 20:16

Actually at 10 she should be able to understand sufficiently that she can't use your ds toys. Why would she want to play with his cars anyway? I think maybe your friend should have been able to tell her dd not to play with your ds toys and perhaps was herself a bit embarrassed by her dd behaviour.

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NeedToMoan · 30/05/2013 00:22

Thanks everyone. On reflection she can be a wind up merchant and her mum was a bit embarrassed but then so was I. I wasn't anticipating there being a problem today so it caught me a bit unawares and then we were just l

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NeedToMoan · 30/05/2013 00:25

Locked in a bad cycle. Most of older DS' friends are good and will give him leeway and get in with their own thing. I need to think it through before next time. The girl is an only child, nothing wrong with that but I guess she's used to being the 'baby' in the house. Ah well.

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