Has anyone moved a child from mainstream when they seemed to be doing ok?

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I have posted loads about this sorry but the stress of it all is dreadful right now.

It was suggested dd move to ss this September as academically she was way behind and also her needs meant she was not coping, she was lashing out and hiding under tables. Sen panel rang me to say they felt ss was more apprpropriate so we have been doing gradual integration to our local one. Mainstream school now say dd is much happier, she is doing well academically and has made loads of progress. But still in p levels for all except one subject. She s year one and as far as I can tell they only think she would manage one more year mainstream.

Anyway she has friends sort of, as in children who look after her there. But I feel she is struggling socially already and it will get worse, her psychologist agrees but school feel she is ok. School are managing the social issues really well but I still feel it would be fairer to her to give her a peer group she could have equal friendships with.

So after a very emotional conversationwith the psychologist tomorrow I think my decision is move to ss, I think leaving while mainstream is mostly positive is better than waiting for it to get worse but am feeling really upset at leaving the lovely small school that we live near and know everyone at has anyone done similar? I think this is what's best for dd but somehow it isn't making it easier especially as school keep saying how well she's doing.

Argh! And psych report has not arrived from when our hospital psychologist went to mainstream and its the only thing I really have as evidence of a professional thinking she should be in ss!

Ed psych report says she should continue to have... Bla bla provision and details dd not understanding questions in group work etc but also about her friendship with one girl. It states the teachers opinion ( dd now doing v well there despite shakes start) and my worries about the gap widening, dd not having enough therapy and equal friendships) but to my eyes seems fairly neutral. Really need clinical psych letter as I know she felt ss was best and was going to put this in writing.

He's 9 - just coming to the end of year 4, and we have our sights set on an indi SS in North Yorkshire, which caters for able boys with Aspergers/ADHD/SEBD from year 5-13.

That sounds good ouryve. I had the annual review and it went pretty well. Dd could possibly manage one more mainstream year IF things continued to go ok but would be best moving now as ss can provide much more therapy for her and she can start building friendships there. She will do one afternoon a week at current school on their golden time afternoon for as long as she likes so she will keep some contact with local children.

It's great news really, just waiting for head to confirm the place but pretty much certain. Not sure why but very very emotional today. Took baby dd to a coffee shop and got a big coffee to cheer myself up a bit but found I couldn't cope being out so am home for now but got that horrible restless feeling!

I know that restless feeling! I'm amazed there's not grooves in our floor!

I've signed myself up for some coursera courses that will force me to think about other stuff over the next few weeks!

That is a really good plan! Deputy head at ss called to confirm the place today, so I guess that's it, transition now and I will get a pack about transport and uniform etc etc. eek! I AM glad but also sad to be leaving current one as we moved twice in the end once to get into it another to stay near it! Ah well just shows you never know how life will turn out.

Dd just played a trick on me where she made bread and cheese wraps and put them back in her lunch box and showed me and said didn't eat lunch today! I went and instantly was panicking thinking what sort of a school is it ( she was at ss today part of the shared placement this term) but of course it was a joke, quite clever but badly timed!