I feel very unqualified for this bit of parenthood.
DS is 17. He's in a tiny A-level set that unfortunately includes a girl he has fallen for and is obsessing about in a way that I'd find quite scary if I was on the receiving end -- and she has a boyfriend anyway. She seems to have started as a friend to joke around with, something he's barely had in his life since Primary, and I think he'd built more on this than it warranted.
Last night he was in floods of tears and coming out with some worrying stuff about wondering if life was worth it if he was always going to be struggling because of his Asperger's, then switching to wondering about buying new stuff for his drumkit.
He's also worried he may be gay (not sure how he squares that with the other obsession).
He's barely eating (food issues anyway, and the sawdust-in-mouth effect of stress).
Oh, and he is somehow trying to do AS levels amidst all this turmoil.
He has full-time help available at school but understandably doesn't want to blazon his private affairs to them. We don't have any regular services lined up for him outside school and the GP already thinks I'm a paranoid parent, but should I be looking for psych help for him or reassuring him that all teens go through this sort of thing?
(I didn't, but I was one hell of a late developer and saved it for college...)