Hi all.I am new to mumsnet so not sure of all the right way to do things so please bear with me.
I have had concerns about my eldest son who is 6.11 and in Yr2 at an Independant school.I will try not to drip feed but it is long!
He is a late June baby and one of the youngest in his year.It all began when he was at Pre school (at the same school) and they said he was very happy but quiet,liked to be by himself,obsessional about things-fireman sam,dinosaurs,star wars and so on to the point where he knows every tiny little thing about it.He struggles to make close friendships but most of his class have been together since they were 2 so have grown up together.He does give eye contact most of the time but it can be very hard to pull him out of his world into the real world often at the expense of anything iygwim.We are told he is very bright-exceptional vocab at a young age,very good reader however in reception he struggled to form letters and write.He also struggled with gross/fine motor skills.His Reception teacher noticed all this and his inability to interact with the rest of his class and had a meeting with us and suggested we go to GP.
We did this and asked for a referral to Children's Centre that deals with Special needs and he was assesed for Aspergers/Autism.HE had a couple of different assesments and we were told that because he doesn't display the triad of impairements it is unlikley that he has Aspergers.
Hope you're still with me!Fast forward a year and he is doing very well academaically but still struggles socially and I'm now told he is withdrawing in class and his classmates have started to notice he is a little different.Also he leans very heavily on his younger brother (5.2) who is in reception who is the complete opposite in personality to him and it is affecting his brother's friendships.I must also add that ds1 is very,very rigid in most aspects of his life but esp playing and finds turn taking,playing each other's games very hard.
His teacher has been amazing and so have the teachers from reception and yr1 who have put IEP's in place and regularly updated them.
Now we are nearing the end of yr2 and things are deteriorating and his teacher has rec getting an Ed Psyche in to suggest some strategies to help with his "emotional outbursts" amongst other things.They want to get these in place before yr3.`the school have been amazing and adore him and want to do whatever they can to help.
My point of all of this is whether anyone can tell me:do children HAVE to display the triad of impairments to have Aspergers or can they have a "mild" case where only certain symptoms appear?Any help/advice would be most appreciatied,I feel very alone and worried about my beautiful boy.