MARYZ(and anyone else familiar with THE NEED TO BE FIRST!)

[mrsforgetful]

You explained the other day about winning being not about the competiotion but simply about knowing they would win...well as i said i'd 'adapt' this theory to other situations and i just had to share this BREAKTHROUGH!!!!!

one of my struggles with ds2 at the moment is his 'sudden' love of playing 'digimon' on the playstation- however unlike ds1 who plays loads of different games - ds2 sticks to the one- and then insists ds3 has the weak characters etc....

well ds1 videos the game as he plays (he figured out how to tune the vcr into the playstation!) and then i notice dthe other day ds2 was engrossed watching the video- rewinding bits back etc...then today he was actually telling ds3 whilst watching it what he had to do etc...as if he'd been playing it for years!

so i asked ds2 that if he learnt a bit more about the game then would he like to play it and others - his reply was that he might but only when he'd learnt all the levels.....!!!

Now my understanding of that is just like the winning....he will only have a go once he is confident enough he will WIN

Also like 'new' foods - if he sees it enough he starts to show signs of wanting to try it...however we've not had much luck at getting past this barrier yet- but know i think i have a better understanding of what 'drives' him then i just have to experiment!

thanks MARYZ!!

know what you mean about 'cheats'- ds1 has various cheat c.d's that have cheats already on them - but he also finds more on the internet- but goes mad when he finds one that doesn't work- then posts messages on their website telling them too!

I had a great '#jessica kingsley' book out the library called 'Can't Eat' Won't eat'- and it was what convinced we about aspergers with ds2- it's aimed at autistic kids and we too allow spitting out food as this book suggests it- and it works- even though progress is slow- ds2 manages larger bits of carrot now (the only veg he will eat - he eats potatoes too) he will 'tolerate' the odd pea now after we followed the books ideas!

what i'm trying at the moment is offer only foods he likes 6 days a week then on 1 day we have a meal he likes but also something added to the plate which he's not too keen on-which he is slowly reacting to less- what i realised i was doing was trying to get him to eat too many different foods- so he was forever having 'suprises'- now i keep the variety small- and i do vary the days- i don't want him getting in the 'routines' of certain foods on certain days.

to be honest i don't mind doing ds3's tea at 4.30 (he loves food and is always hungry....ds1 and 2 'dont't get hungary'- they can be upstairs for hours and are oblivious to cooking smells- whereas ds3 'follows his nose'!!)
Then at 5 i am happy to serve the other 2....followed by me and dh at 6....people i know are 'horrified' the lengths i go to to 'feed' my family- but it is less stressful doing this than all of us eating the same food!

The way i look at it is i generally only cook things i like - so how would i feel if i was living somewhere where the meals were cooked for me without me saying what i liked and then when put in front of me it was for example rare beef ...or salmon.....i could not eat those even if i were paid !!