My Older son, who's 5.5 yrs is having problems with a girl in the year above [he's reception], it seems she's something of a bossy boots, we are forever hearing about how xx has told him he can only play with his other friends in the class room and he has to play with her at break and lunch... I've already had to have a word with his teacher about this as she took to telling him to close his lunch box becuase it was time to go out and play [without him being able to finish his lunch, or have any of his drink
] and now he's just let it slip that he didn't get his snack today [the kids all get a peice of fruit/ veg as a snack at morning break]becuase se told him to put it in the bin...
We've told him he can make his own choices, he doesn't have to do what she says,and DP is all for making him stop playing with her altogether. But nothing we say seems to make a blind bit of difference, he seems to need having someone to tell him what to do, and just goes along with whatever he's told to do [even if he doesn't want to] if soemthings presented as a rule he goes along with it, he's the only kid inhis class who's never broken the rules [this amazes his teacher!] he's very very bright and is a quirky boy,I someitmes worry about Aspergers if I'm honest, but his astonishing empathy and flexibilty [he has no rigid routines, rituals or sensory issues] do sort of throw that out the window!
I'm at my wits end, any suggestions are muchly appreciated!