Anyone want to join me in a moan????? grrrrrrr

[Blossomhill]

I love dd to bits but she is such hard work.

Although on meds she is so much calmer, happier and apparently a different child at school we do still have problems at home.

The one thing I find that gets to me is that dd does things that I consider pointless really. Actually she did do a really funny thing last week at my mum's house. Mum had bought some sausages for her fry up the next day. Then was going frantic when she couldn't find them. She rang em and dd calmly said they are in the garden, under the flowerpot and that she was doing a sausage hunt (same as egg) and I was so taken aback. Dd does things like that all the time. Then I went into the bathroom and with my lipseal she had written on the bathroom mirror. Yesterday she took 2 small post of finger paints and drew on her bed covers. This morning I found her in the bathroom trying to put my wax strips on her face

What I am trying to say is that dd cannot be left alone for more than a minute before getting into something. Rather like an 18 month old that hasn't grown out of the toddler stage. She has such a low boredom freshhold.

Am I alone is this??? Is there anything I can do?(apart from shadow her 24/7 and that is virtually impossible).

It's all just pointless mess and then I feel so fed up as it takes so long to put the mess right.

Rant over

Hi Christie - so it is sn related then?

I did have respite but it didn't work out and now in the process of finding someone else :(

This afternoon for example ds has gone out, dh is at work so I have to make sure we are busy or the things I mentioned in op will happen.

We are going to:-

play bingo
paint her nails and she can paint mine
do princess colour by numbers
make dora cakes

that will probably take about an hour

I do enjoy being with dd and I just have to switch off I guess today from all the things that need doing. They will be there tomorrow!

Awwww babes

I know what you mean, not on quite the same level as you, but I can sympathise a bit.

We keep the kitchen door shut at all times when we aren't in it as we are bored to death of clearing up the contents of the fridge from the floor.
Last time it was a bowl of left of spag bol, pint of milk and a pot of double cream! She had covered herself and the kitchen. It stunk and took ages to clear up.

She found my pink lipstick and drew all over her face and my new egyptian cotton duvet cover.

She empties the bin, strewing rubbish everywhere.

She just pulled DD2 off the sofa, to give her a cuddle by DD2 was face down on the carpet screaming and lottie was trying to pick her up.

She drew all over the hall wall with the end of a key so it's a sort of silver scratch marks.

Emptied talculm powder into her wardrobe.

puts soft toys down the loo all the time.

It's just the usual naughty, michevious little kid stuff but she doesn't get that some of these things are really naughty and she mustn't do them. Like the fridge thing, drives us mad, but no matter how often we tell her no etc if we leave the kitchen door open she's straight in there emptying it.

Not always easy to see the funny side of it when it's 9am and you're supposed to be on the way to school.

Thomcat :(

It just gets you down doesn't it and I guess it's the mess it leaves behind afterwards. I always feel resentful as I mutter to myself that the time I have spent clearing up could have been spent playing with her! We had the toilet phase too Thomcat but thankfullt hasn't happened in ages.

I can realy see the difference between normal toddler stuff and then the way dd behaves. Ds drew ( and I mean drew, it was huge) all over my living room wall while I was on the phone to the bank. I really told him off and he has never done it again. What I am trying to say is he learns from his experiences and knows the consequence. Dd doesn't understand what her ctions will lead to.

It's certainly tiring. I just took a stone out of DD2's mouth where DD1 had decided she'd feed her. I noticed when I heard DD1 saying 'der you go bebe'!

Not alone, ds is the same, blooming exhausting! They are bored. Try giving her a task and leaving her to it with the instruction that she comes to you when she is finished, then give her something else to do,sometimes keeps em busy whilst you are getting on with other jobs.

Blossom hill, you can occupy her for a whilst but if your dd is anything like my ds2, she'll get bored of your company after a whilst!

I often threaten to get some gaffer tape and stick ds2 to the ceiling, and there are days when it would havebeen my best option!

I keep regretting buying bath crayons, now he thinks he can draw on walls and floors but then I remember ds1 who's 5 and NT and should be allowed fun stuff like that.

I'm planning to find a way of having extra eyes grafted so I can watch ds2 better, I need them up my a* never mind the back of my head