I'm due to go for the feedback appointment and I am not feeling too positive about getting a diagnosis for my DD, 11 (hopefully) ASD.
DD has learned so many coping strategies over the years, aswell as us teaching her to be polite and to act a certain way in public . . . However, I feel that is the reason we won't get the dx.
I have been speaking with the assessor in person and she has indicated a few things to me, and I wanted to get your fabulous thoughts on it please.
Apparently DD is quite social and this is the only thing that they seem to be scoring her down on - This, I find completely shocking......DD will only play with the same younger friends and even then she only sees them maybe twice a week. When out and about with her and we bump into people we know, she doesn't know how to interact and certainly doesn't have any kind of social contact with them - in fact, she comes over as quite rude!
At home, DD spends all her time in her room, by herself or with her brother or downstairs with her brother. Her interaction is nil and we have to speak to her first.
She also hates going out of the house to do anything we need to do and thinks that we should stay in all weekend, while she plays out with her friends.
Surely this cannot be the difference between getting a diagnosis or not?!
She is known to act and speak a certain way in front of 'authority' yet this seems to have been ignored. All the reports we've ever had indicate significant social, communication difficulties, yet it now sounds like they've changed their minds.
She did make the point of saying they still haven't decided to diagnose or not and told us we could always ask for a second opinion if they decided not to. I very quickly told her that we would expect a second opinion definitely, so at least they know where we stand.
What i'd like to know is, how can I disagree and make it clear i've researched the difference with boys and girls, without coming over as desperate for only 1 diagnosis.
This seems