Co-operation at appointments

[OneInEight]

Any bright ideas on how I can persuade ds2 to co-operate at appointments. He has got to the point now where he will point blank refuse to co-operate as hates being interrogated (his words). To give him his due we have seen an awful lot of people asking the same questions without progressing very far. We have a complex speech and language assessment coming up but he says he is not going to do it and refused to see the educational psychologist at school last week. Not sure how we are going to progress with diagnosis and support if we do not overcome this.

OneInEight I dont have any bright ideas I'm afraid.
I could accept that he feels that way. I could understand that he doesn't want to do it any more. But it still has to be done.
Some of it is down to the skill of the assessor too, TBH. A good one knows that children have often had to do this before and know how to pitch it.

Nothing much to offer other than sympathy.

Is he open to bribery? Is he of an age where he needs to make all the input, or does him mind you speaking for him on some matters.

The people who are assessing him should be experienced with disengaged kids. If he's being assessed for a social communication disorder, then this behaviour is actually relevant.

I am trying bribery. I have offered to be with him / or not be with him whichever he would prefer. I have explained what will be asked but I don't think he believes me. I have already done the parent bit of the assessment at least but it would be better if I could persuade him to speak!

How old is Ds?
My Ds now 16 was until recently very uncooperative at appointments. I always went with him and spoke for him as much as possible.

Obviously sometimes that wasn't appropriate as they had to see his skills. Porridge and ouryve are right that a lot of it depends on the skill of the assessor. I gave up with the SALT who obviously couldn't get onto Ds's wave length at all but as his language issues were minor, that wasn't a huge problem.

The paed however was happy to give a diagnosis based on her observation of him being uncooperative and our input.