Grr what is it with grandparents?

[Dinkysmummy]

I don't know what part of dinky does not react like other children her age my dad doesn't get! He always says 'when you were young you would stop to get the trip out, your daughter doesnt seem to be like that'
Today he added 'maybe it is the Italian mix?'
Italian mix??? Oh because being referred to paed tends to be an italian/Irish/English mix issue not an actual issue. Oh my mistake! That's why senco put her on sen register... It must be the Italian? FFS!

I think I preferred the 'it must be housing related' over the Italian thing.

Oh she is aqarius and the full moon is shining out of mars backside that is why she wouldn't give in and started screaming after being asked repeatedly to do something, which means male cancer sign with second moon hiding from mercury must get more annoyed and shout because that should work.
All resulting in unsuspecting Taurus with sun orbiting Neptune being attacked by said little Aquarius and shouted at my annoyed male cancer all on mothers day... I should have said I needed a nap to escape, but someone has to sort out world war (lost count) between them Two.

Sorry for the rant... He just gets on my wick at times...

(for those who are confused the star sign stuff is what I'm expecting next... If anyone tries to tell me she is bound to be a bit uptight when the planets align is going to get an earful!)

Don't worry, I'd probably laugh if I wasn't so annoyed by it. We have had the discussions a million times about dinky and how to approach getting her to do as you need her to do, and about picking your battles. He just doesn't get it. He thinks I should smack her... Yeah because if you don't like a certain behaviour physical violence is the answer is a great way to bring up kids!

The house is fab. The living room is almost twice the size of the room we were in, dinky loves having her own room and earlier said "I'm off to my room, I'll be back soon"
There is so much space it is unreal! (it probably isn't as big as I think it is, perception is key here!)

GP's don't you just love them. My mum swore there was nothing wrong for years but even now it's iffy. I was telling her a story about my lo and the hairdresser and she asked me in a funny, affected voice, "have you told them he s SLIGHTLY autistic?" Lol.

Now my toxic alcoholic mother actually UNDERSTANDS the Autism side of things - she's crap at EVERYTHING else, but my 22yo Dbro was dxd with Aspergers, and she 'gets' it.

My Ex-MIL on the other hand...

She is STILL in denial about the fact that her darling son (my Ex) was dxd with ASD when he was 12. Or the fact that of her daughters 3 DC's, two have ASD dxd. Or that my DC's have ASD.

DS3 is, and I quote "just himself, it doesn't matter if he's a little bit abnormal, does it".

W. T. FUCKING. F. ???!!!

Grandparents! They make you then and make you want to (insert back handed slap icon here)

Oh dear... I think I might have to employ the nod and agree tactic until I can say for certain that dinky has a certain condition and this is how you deal with it. Then I can try to stop him blaming everything on our surname (which he is convinced is unlucky... Although to be fair neither of us has had much luck), on our Irish roots, on her part Italian roots, or anything else he feels contributes to dinkys quirks or OTT demand avoidance.

I take comfort in the fact most Grandparents are unwilling to accept that there might be a difference with their DGC, but feel for you all as it is so frustrating!

to all x

I've overheard my mum telling someone ds is 'slightly autistic' too.

She's great though, loves ds to bits and is very supportive so I totally forgive her .
My dad on the other hand, never does anything to help but on the rare occasions we see him he always manages to come out with some comment that is like a stab in the heart. Last week it was pointing out, as if I didn't know, that "It's the future you worry about". Yeah thanks for that, I actually try very hard not to think about it as I'd never sleep at night, but thanks for reminding me.

lol just remembered my mum's decorator had an autistic son who spent the day at her home while it was being decorated, she let him play with her ipad. She said to me he was fine and could obviously handle a social occasion no problem. lol no mother, playing with an ipad all day in an old lady's bungalow is not a social occasion! She says similar about my son, but then again she's never stood in a long queue with him!