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Crawling · 08/03/2013 20:38

Dd has put the dog food in water. Tipped washing up powder everywhere climbed up on the side got the scissors and cut her hair and ripped my plants up. She has also climbed on the side and emptied a bag of flour all today. The minute I turn my back she is in the kitchen destroying something.

I must sound like a awful mum but I swear its the minute I turn my back I find her doing something naughty and as I have a younger child I often get distracted. Anyone want to make me feel better with stories of your destructive dc? Just so I dont feel like such a crap mum. Or anyone want to give some advice on how I get dd to stay out of the kitchen (which is where she did all of todays destrution) I have a extra tall safety gate which she gets through easily.

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Ineedmorepatience · 08/03/2013 21:26

Can you shut the door and put a small bolt at the top?

I had to do this to keep Dd2 out of Dd1's bedroom.

You need to be able to take your eyes off her without all this stress.

Good luckSmile

Crawling · 08/03/2013 21:31

Thats a great idea yes ill do that thank you.

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Mckenngp1 · 08/03/2013 21:56

Brings back memories! I can recall coming downstairs at some unearthly time to find dd then age 3, sat on top of the fridge freezer with blue paint covering her and dripping down the fridge. She had emptied a box of ready brek along with 4 pints of milk on the floor to make her porridge prior to this. She never ever played with toys, I thought they were one big commercial con, she just wrecked the house in a whirl.
I spent an awful lot of time with them strapped in a double buggy, walking the streets and going to parks. In the end we resorted to locks too. One play room, made safe and lots of sensory fulfilling toys in there. She can still trash a room in minutes now left unsupervised and she is nearly 8, sorry!

lougle · 09/03/2013 14:58

Hi Crawling, it may get better in time. I used to have stair gates on 6 doorways and an electro-magnetic lock on the front door. Now, I have managed to get away with a stair gate on DD1's door, a bolt on our bedroom door and keen ears!

My top tip is that if DD1 is quiet, that's the time to start worrying.

Take comfort that it's often just exploring cause and effect. DD1 is 7 and went to INTECH today, which is a science centre. Her helper said she'd been really good until she'd discovered that they leave the surface cleaners out in the cafe and was obsessively cleaning tables so that she could spray the cleaner.

coff33pot · 10/03/2013 01:34

It does get better in time :)

DS was a nightmare up till his 7th Birthday. Bottles of shampoo, toothpaste being his favorite to smear on mirrors and bedroom windows. Sudocrem ugh that was awful stuff to wash off anything.

We resorted to emptying out the entire contents of the bathroom bar the toothbrushes and some soap (block not liquid)

Then he moved to kitchen cupboards and I have found him died to the hilt with food colouring, paint, washing up liquid poured into the cats and dogs water bowls, dd quite often woke up to find he had put some alien liquid in her over night drink.

Perfumes sprayed everywhere oh you name it if it was in a bottle it was emptied, smeared or experimented with.

We resorted to locks on all the bedroom doors up high for daily use apart from his room as that was his chill out space.

Front door was locked and chained and we bought window locks for all the windows.
"no" all the time or having to clean up every time you turned yo.ur back.

when he got older he called it "science" and "experiments" We everntually worked out it was completely a sensory thing for him. The feel of the slime, splodges and smears.

Kitchen is open plan so fatal. But what I found was I started letting him choose his breakfast of choice before bedtime and putting it in tupperware tubs, he liked it dry fortunately, then a snack and I used to make a drink in a sports bottle. He was thrilled and also that delayed him opening cupboards as I would hear him up rummaging and be down before he stopped eating his breakfast he chose! Grin

Also we decided to give him a "science corner" gave him surgical gloves and pots and pipets and told him he was ALLOWED to experiement with anything he liked but he had to ask for the stuff first and he had to choose one experiement for each day only. IF he helped himself then he lost his science experiment for that day.

It did stop him helping himself to the kitchen as it wore off because I would give him, cooking oil and food colouring, sugar, washing up liquid oh and slices of bread you can make great patterns with that. Obviously I was able to measure out small portions rather than him just tipping what he found! With everything covered and his gloves on he used yogurt pots and I bought some travel bottles and sprays from boots etc. It was fun for him and the mess was in the one spot.

Same with the bathroom, we kept and went through all the old bottles of stuff and make up and whatever and he was allowed to "science experiement" in the bath full of warm water whilst he was in it Grin Simple shower off at the end lol

Dont know if that will work for you but might be worth a try :)

tallwivglasses · 10/03/2013 02:22

For us it gets worse, as DS gets taller and more wily. There's locks on doors and most things are high up and out of reach. Mind, the devastation that boy can cause in five minutes in the bathroom. It's impressive - cream, shampoo, toothpaste, nothings sacred. The latest is ripping wallpaper. When people ask me what his 'special skill' is, I tell them it's making a mess Grin

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