My Big Fat Aspie Mothers' Day!

[Greensleeves]

I am sitting here with tears of laughter running down my face (charmed, delighted tears)

My gorgeous hilarious 10yo boy has got me all to himself this weekend as dh and ds2 are away on a camping trip until Sunday afternoon. I am unable to walk far without crutches due to knee injury.

ds1 is taking it all VERY seriously and I knew he had plans (he always has plans, he's big on plans)

So he has presented me with a three-page programme of events, with a illustrated front cover

I HAVE to share it with you

Page 1:

Weekend with Shortsleeve

Entertainment Planner

Read this for a guide of meals, activities and timings

Page 2:

Weekend Schedual - Saturday (gaps = random chillaxing)

8.00am = Breakfast (Toasties & Tea)
9.00am = morning
9.30am = Entertainment Show
10.00am = discuss story
12.25pm = Lunch (corner shop picnic)
1.30pm = Chat About Something
5.30pm = Evening Entertainment show
6.30pm = Simpsons Season Start/Dinner (cheesey pasta bake)
????? = Bedtime

Page 3:

Weekend Schedual - Sunday Morning (Blank = chilling)

8.30am = Breakfast (surprise feast!)
9.30am =
10.45am = Mothers Day "Spa"
11.30am = Lunch (surprise)

He is planning to do all the cooking etc himself, he has consulted dh and done shopping etc! [a little bit afraid]

Oh Greensleeves how was the weekend- how did the four hour chat go? Such a lovely boy you have there.

My weekend was fabulous

Particularly the spa. Picture me, lying supine on the sofa, a thick slice of courgette on each eyelid, a steaming mug of "relaxing tea" (hot water with a branch of rosemary from the garden protruding from it) and my lovely boy stroking my cheek and crooning "you are on a beach Mummy, the sand is warm and soft between your toes"

he really is one in a million

Oh that sounds wonderful.
What a great Ds!

How utterly brilliant. Courgette! Wonderful.

The Chat About Something turned out to be about having AS! He wanted to talk about being "different" and whether it would cause him problems in the future. He had a list of points to discuss, including "will I be able to get married and have children", "will anyone want to live with me" and "will it be hard for me to get a job". He's been giving it all a lot of thought, bless him, and it was actually a great conversation and only ran to 2 hours...

I gave him some pocket money to go and spend during the remaining time. He went to the park, met the boys who have been bullying him at school and talked them into being friends, he ended up playing with them and their friends. Then he went and bought me a Lindor bar as a surprise for Mothers Day breakfast. Then he went and bought himself a hot chocolate and took it to the train station (we live in a very small place, so it's close) and trainspotted for 2 hours! He remembers every single train he saw in detail

He is so cool

Greensleeves,

I got a Double Decker!

I LOVE Double Deckers! I did get spoilt rotten with a pile of presents and cards when dh got home as well, he had bought and wrapped them with the boys and hidden them before he went away. And smoked salmon and olives for lunch. I can't BELIEVE ds1 managed to keep from blurting it out all weekend! It's all a bit surreal. DS1 has actually been a bit of a nightmare recently, now he seems to have moved on a step... long may it continue!

I especially like the slot between breakfast and entertainment, simply entitled "morning"

montage I thought that was quite an interesting insight into how a little Aspie thinks - I reckon he thought about all the faffing and moaning and tea-slurping I have to do in the morning before I am a functioning human being, and allocated it a half-hour slot on the timetable

I know I sound like a smug boastful git btw

but to add context, last week I was in tears on here asking for advice because a bunch of older boys have been bullying him, calling him a weirdo and shoving him in the lost property bin. And before Christmas he was o a warning for exclusion from the afterschool club because his behaviour was so bad (because he was anxious). So it is LOVELY to see him thriving and really being comfortable with how he is IYSWIM, I think he is starting to like himself a bit more.

You don't sound smug and boastful at all Greensleeves, just pleased and proud - and rightfully so.

Your ds sounds really lovely.

I hope the school dealt with the bullying, we are going through similar with ds1 at the moment and it breaks your heart.

Polter, ds1 says "can I tell you an interesting fact" all the time as well!

Polter, I get "interesting facts" too! It's my ruse for getting him to tidy up, he takes one item at a time to the kitchen/bedroom, and with each visit he gets to tell me an "interesting fact" (usually something like "First Group have bought up all the old Voyager 360s, changed the toilets and repainted the outsides, and stuck Deltic carriages on the back, and they expect us to FALL FOR THIS?!?!?

What an amazing boy you have.

Snort @ courgettes on your eyes. Genius!

Greensleeves, that's genius - allowing him one fact per item tidied, I love it!

I am definitely going to try that with ds1!

Polter, I know what you mean. It was realising that that really helped me accept that ds1 actually does have Aspergers. I used to worry that I'd somehow 'made' them dx him and someone was going to come along and tell me they were wrong and remove the dx.

What a brilliant thread! Especially the courgettes...

They were refrigerated courgettes, it worked surprisingly well!

Awwwww! Give hima big fat hug. Flyingboy, having spent a lot of time sobbing, told me this morning that my brake light wasn't working. Most useful.

Love love LOVE this

Like the precise 2hours 25 minutes for 'discussing story'.

What a lovely boy you have

This is why I get so with schools, caring carrots, dodgy relatives etc who cause the dc and us such unnecessary distress and difficulty. A happy, healthy AS dc is a well-adjusted, quirky, off-beat delight... and an anxious one going through hell is and hell to live with. It's just so lovely when they're fine.

what an amazing weekend, and son.