Aspergers coping strategies

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Can anyone recommend good books/websites etc for me to read up on the best coping strategies for a child with Aspergers tendencies?

The child is aged 5 and does not have a diagnosis, but he does display many Aspergers traits. Even if he turns out not to have it, surely implementing coping techniques will help him?

Thank you in advance

Have you spoke to school about his tendencies. My son is in reception and I have had my suspicions for a while and when I spoke to his teacher at parents evening although she was very non commital when I asked the question I could tell she thinks it is very likely and would be happy to refer him to a paediatrician, which in our school is very unusual!!

I found ' parenting a child with Asperger syndrome ' by Brenda Boyd useful.

Thank you PolterGoose, peppajay and troutspout for your replies and recommendations - I will go and have a look for those on Amazon Kindle.

Unfortunately I'm not in the UK and can't speak to school because here children don't begin formal schooling until age 6, so he only sporadically attends pre-school at the moment and more importantly, it wouldn't be my place to approach his teachers with this.

I'm not trying to be purposely cryptic. I started this thread yesterday which explains my situation a little more.

He is a lovely little boy, but he just doesn't 'get' subtle social nuances, body language or empathy at all. He hates to do anything or go anywhere new, prefers to play alone or 1 to 1 with an adult, gives affection only on his terms and is very literal in both his use and interpretation of speech. He is academically very advanced, has an unusually accurate memory and loves numbers. He needs repetition and routine as much as he needs food and water. Without these he becomes very stressed and upset and I have to 'talk him down' with very straightforward logic. He doesn't ever lie or fib like most children his age and can often say blunt, hurtful things with absolutely no idea he has caused distress eg

Johnny: "Hello Granny"
Granny: "Come and give Granny a hug and kiss then"
Johnny: "No thanks. I don't want to. Do you want to see my train?"

(His name isn't Johnny btw).