Really upset as I feel my SALT has an agenda and is so focused on her opinion that DS has a language disorder that everything seems to get turned round to this or dismissed as an age thing if it does not fit.
I feel she has stopped listening to me and others and made her mind up about DS after spending a few sessions with him.
Everyone else has told us that DS is on the spectrum and the Pead put me on Earlybird.
Now I know the SALT can't diagnose ASD on her own and she is part of team, but I now feel this is fragmented and can feel the tension between her and the OT - who is lovely- The SALT does not mince her words and is head strong but I feel she also turns everything to Language and attention, whilst I agree DS could have a Lang disorder, he has loads of other things that point to the social communication problems in ASD.
I also feel as if we are being observed as to ~"who is right" rather than this is DS these are his issues.
I just feel everything I say to her is twisted and used by her to indicate her being right- regardless of whether they are more ASD or lang or if nothing at all.
I am not sure how to deal with this tactfully and in a way that puts my view across without her jumping on it and telling me she knows best or needs to discuss it with the team, I am also worried that with one team member strongly opposed it may lead to no diagnosis just an mass of issues, Diagnosis is key to us as my DS will need an ARP.
I am also worried about making a big song and dance about it and pissing the whole team off and all the hassle that tends to go with that.
I am going to get an experienced private SLT and not mention the Lang disorder stuff and see what she thinks.
But i have gone from feeling that I can mention anything to SALT to feeling very uneasy and don't trust her, DH even said well lets move his chair and let her see DS meltdown - but I hate the idea of doing this.
What would you do?