So I went to see dinkys new school today.
The teachers seemed friendly enough, the TAs were friendly enough, the playground looked lovely, the kids looked happy, and I think it will suit dinky to the ground!
Why am I unsure? Well, they are set up for mostly free time. Which would suit dinky's demand avoidance, (therefore reducing the need to constantly fetch her from the toilet or from under the table) and they have the three classes all in one room which is split into sort of sections. So I feel she could get lost in the mix and they wouldn't notice if she decided to just hang out in a corner for an hour or so as she is so adept at hiding (current school lost her for 45 minutes and were about to phone when she came out to go to the toilet as if nothing had happened!)
This is going to sound bad but I also think this would really affect her getting a dx and will make it all look housing related as we are moving her school within 2 weeks of moving house and her behaviour at school will improve because there are less demands at this school. Which obviously is good for dinky, but I dont want to get into all this for the paed to say nothing is wrong then it get more structured when she starts Y1 and have to try and get her referred again. Also I don't want the school to take away any support especially the play therapist as it gives her the break she needs and can play out some of her anxieties.
Or will it actually make much of a difference as some days she won't take any demands whether they be little ones like 'can you put that toy away please' or 'can you read this sentence for me'?
Hmmm. I don't know if this is going to make this whole process harder, or not.
I guess the only way to know is to just do it. She can't stay at the current school because they dont want her Or families likes ours there.