ASD son won't go to school

[Ojos]

I have a 5yo little boy with diagnosed ASD, he is refusing to go to school. I have tried every tactic i can think of, and taken on board all suggestions given in the past, but nothing is working!
When I posted a blog asking for help,www.ojosworld.com , one commenter suggested I try this page.
This is the 1st post for me on here, so I hope I've given enough info.
He's not allowed any of the treats he would have normally, if he'd gone to school. The only thing he has said is 'too many shouty voices'.
Thank you x

Hi I seem to be following you around!

It sounds like he's having sensory overload problems at school. Is he provided with a quiet area that he can retreat to when things get too much for him, there?

Hi ojos and welcome to the board. I have a Dd with Asd, she hated school at 5 too. She copes much better now but would still prefer to stay at home.

Have to go out but will pop back later.

I had/have this ongoing with my dd high school. She crashed and burned within 9 school days of starting :(

One piece of valuable advice that I got off here was not to punish dd, as she really did struggle to make it into school.

It's a real thing and some schools don't acknowledge their fears.

Keep talking to school, the senco and anyone involved with you all and say you want him there and know he needs to be there, but he's having major difficulties at present.

Maybe they could shorten the school day so he isn't overloaded with too much stimuli?

Hi and thank you for your replies. The school does supply a quiet area when we can get him there. And they allow him is blanket so he can 'hide'. We had a successful day today, because I live close to school, the weather came and coaxed him in. Not a long term solution I know. But once he gets there he hopes ok most of the time x

Sorry, that was meant to say teacher not weather!? Lol x

Maybe suggest a later arrival time to avoid the shouty voices in the morning rush. Perhaps your DS may benefit from ear defenders? wont block the whole sound out but will quieten it.

Another one I found was giving my DS a mp3 player with a choice of his fav music on it helped him focus and shut out any sensory issues during transition to school and transition between classes.

Maybe the teacher aught to stop shouting?

Try asking him what sort of shouty voices and can he make their sounds to show you. You may get a broader picture. Lunchtimes and playtimes were hell for DS and so he goes in 10 mins early so he is settled and got his meal before the rush of the ques he has a couple friends that go with him now who also have aspergers. Just something little like this can make a huge difference to a sensory overloaded child x

Dd3 goes in after everyone else too, to avoid the rush in the cloakroom. Lunchtimes were a biggy for her, for yrs she took a packed lunch and nibbled at bits and pieces often eating most of it on the walk home but after a move of school she started school meals occasionally and now loves lunchtime. There is a lovely TA who sits at her table to support another child and I think this has made a big difference.

Our biggest problem has always been transitions, we havent cracked it completely yet, she still finds leaving the house and walking into school really tough but I do know that generally she is ok once she is there.

I agree with sweetea keep talking to the staff and take everything gently and slowly. Oh and if the teacher is willing to help you in the mornings let her, the more people that can support you and him, the better.

Good luck