AS and baths

[Crawling]

Three questions, 1 what age should I stop bathing ds(poss AS) and Dd(asd) together ds is 7 but ds is immature and likes bathing with his Dsis and I wonder whether he is too old (7yo) to be sharing a bath.

Second at what age would a normal child be able to wash themselves? ds cant and I am not sure when he should be doing it.

Thirdly what age was your AS child able to wash themselves?

DS is 12. He is able to wash himself but needs to be reminded to do it properly. DS and DD shared a bath - or bathtime one after the other but both in the room IYSWIM for ages until they both decided not to. DS started to get a bit body concious about 10/11 and DD about 8/9.
I would think that as long as they are both happy and not self concious about it, it is fine.

My friend with NT kids has a yr old and a 3yr old and they still get baths together. I have an only so can't help with that (although if he did have younger siblings I would have stopped him bathing with them now he likes to have a good fondle of himself!).

My DS is 8 and has ASD. I've started leaving him to it, but just verbally sending reminders from my bedroom as I read a book "Wash your face....now your neck... now your arms....." and so on. I keep meaning to do a laminated list for the bathroom but always forget. I am still putting the shampoo on but he is doing the rinsing.

My bath issue is DS splashing, and "washing" the tile walls, I'd hoped he'd have grown out of it by now.

DS has only become toilet trained in the last year and he is currently learning to wipe himself afterwards, with me doing the final wipe.

Thanks all so its basically a wait and see.

DS2 started having showers rather than baths when he was 9, with me standing outside the shower cubicle issuing instructions. By the time he was ten, he was able to manage alone.

The first sentence of my post earlier should say 7yr and 3yr old.

Crawling I think with our DCs that are on the spectrum it's hard to generalise as their development profiles are so spiky! All we can do is keep an eagle eye out for any signs they are ready for that next small step.

I think the bath sharing issue, it's time to have their own baths when they become conscious of wanting their own privacy.

My DS wouldn't even get under a shower until he was 7 and a half. Now he will very gingerly do it and I am amazed every time. :-D

Ds is 11 and I have just showered him yet again, he just can't do it, he doesn't like the water splashing on him at all, he will lie in a bath and very gently rub a sponge on him, but it's not washing, unfortunatley he is still at the screaming stage when washing his hair, I keep it cut very short to minimise the amount of washing, if you know what I mean, it actually wears me out sometimes, sorry I'm no help about sharing the bath, there is a big gap with my two so it was never an issue...

Ha! DS2 is 13, with ASD and still won't have a shower. I (still) just run him a bath with toddler bubble bath in and hope that the dirt washes off on it's own. He will wash his own hair after a fashion but I do the final rinse. He stopped sharing with his younger brother at about 8 or 9.

Ds1 is not asd but sensory issues and is 7, he shares a bath with ds2 17 months, obviously i supervise at the bath side for ds2's sake. Ds1 has been able to bath alone for a long while but cant do his own hair he hates getting his head wet or water in his face, he tries to wash himself but thinks rubbing soap on his belly is him clean. He hasnt show any signs of wanting privacy yet but i will stop as soon as he does hopefully he will manage hair washing alone by then. Ds wont shower hes terrified of it.

Only thing ive been concerned with is the other night ds2 was trying to grab ds1's willy and he thought it was funny rather than stop him, he also tried cleaning ds2 with a nail brush very briefly as i was right there, i tried explaning it would be sore and got ds1 to do it a little on his hand to see and he thought it was tickly

DD, HFA, was 8.5yo before she could wash herself, and 12yo before she could PROPERLY wash her own hair.

DS2, ASD, is 9 and has only just started washing himself, but doesn't do a good job of it, and can't wash his hair yet.

It is complicated by the fact that they both have physical difficulties from Hypermobility syndrome though.

I personally would stop bathing a girl and a boy together by 8yo. Or whenever one of them expressed discomfort from it, regardless of their age. I'd take it from them tbh.

Dd3 doesnt share baths because ofna big age gap but she has recently begun to shower herself and wash her hair (grudgingly).
She has a visual timetable for showering which has helped massively although she has gone back to grumbling but not as much.

She loves baths but not alot of washing goes on, she can have a bath and get dried and dressed independently but doesnt wash her hair in the bath.

She is 10 btw