Lost my 'joie de vivre'-how do I get it back?

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I am not particularly depressed,just have lost my get up & go.Been caring for dd with rare form of CP,for nearly 4 years now.I was made redundant from a job I loved 2 years ago & have not been able to find anything else that will fit in with caring for dd,so I think that has affected me.
But just in general I have no 'lust for life' & its beginning to affect my relationship with dh(he's wonderful & supportive btw!)but I just cannot be bothered.Dc's are well cared for,so not losing my ability to care,but need to 'feel' again.
I am heading down a slippery slope & don't know what I can do to claw my way back,maybe just a massive kick up the arse would help?!?!

Can you do a distance learning course? Or even a local evening class?

Can you make the logistical arrangements now for a 'date' in a months time.

Get yourself a lovely looking calander and put a couple of things in it, even if it means your dh having to take a day off work for you to attend.

You need some things to look forward to and to plan for.

I would second Star. An evening class if possible over a distance learning course.

I felt similar to you, for different reasons, years ago when dh's work moved us the length of the country away from all my family and friends, my job and essentially my independence. I was still getting everything done and coping, but really I was just going through the motions and felt numb. I started an evening course - just something I was interested, not career or child related, something just for me. It was lovely to spend time just focussing on me for a while and to spend time with other like-minded adults. It broke up the week, gave me something to look forward to and really made all the difference.

Planning a couple of events or trips and putting them in the diary as Star also suggests is also something I find helps. It just gives you something else to focus on and think about.

Thanks will give it a try

dont know what to suggest as my joie de vivre died a long time ago actually not sure if I had it in the first place LOL

Perhaps something random like a drama group where you have to play act and be "someone else" for an evening :) I would have thought conversations would be flowing in that sort of club or class.

I know how you feel. I had all sorts of plans for when my youngest went to school but none of them materialised, just a year of school hassle, asd assessments and watching my dad die :-( Like you though, despite all this, I don't think I am seriously depressed, just a bit lacking in oomph. Things are calming down a bit now after much holding it together. I think a course sounds good, might take that idea up myself! Do you ever get half hour free to go for a run? I took it up early last year and felt fab, and the weight drops off. As things intensified it all went out the window but defo something else I am looking to start up again. Definitely helps with positive thinking but the first few times it is hard!