Under 5s Clinic - is it always this weird?

[PicaK]

DH and I go to the Under 5s clinic with our DS (3). He's not being assessed as such but we are due to see the paed consultant at end March and so the psych will be doing a report.

I just find the sessions weird. Is it just us? We seem to be in a small staffroom full of chairs and a coffee table with no space for any active child. The psych never initiates conversation, she spends most of the time talking out loud to the room. "DS hit those cars quite fast. I wonder what DS was thinking when he did that."

I can sort of see what she's doing but i find it really disconcerting and i find it so hard to be myself or to do normal parenting. I wish there was a guide to what's exoected.

Well that IS weird.... If Psych is merely observing and not seeking input from you may as well observe at nursery/preschool or other more 'natural' setting. How strange.

DEFINATELY wierd. Sounds like the French approach.

It's for DS. Communication probs and dev delay that from my reading on here suggests he's somewhere on the spectrum.trying not to force my cod diagnosis onto him despite all the lightbulb moments I have on here when someone describes their kid doing the stuff mine does.

It feels like it's us that's being observed. Also doing parenting classes full of people who smack and shout at their kids which I'm finding emotionally hard tho trying to be positive and take stuff from it.

I think I've been lucky cos as a sahm with only one child I've just avoided places and situations which stress ds out without realising it. This small room with broken toys just sends his behaviour haywire. Every nerve of my body just wants to leave. Dread these sessions.

Have the confidence now to say next week that the whole talking to the air thing is quite difficult to handle.

PicaK - I always put my foot down about those parenting classes with DS1, pointing out that it wasn't that we didn't know how to deal with his behaviour, but that there's was an awful lot of it to either head off or pick up the pieces after (because very often with DS1, there is no heading it off, rather merely delaying it while the pressure builds up and makes the inevitable blow up even bigger, louder and messier)

Just ask the silly person what you should be expecting to get out of the sessions, or more importantly, what your ds is supposed to be getting out of them, as you are unclear.