just a rant dont mind me

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After the meeting on monday with the head and the senco i felt a little better.... it was short lived.

Some of you may remember that my ds was having problems with one teacher in particular as well as being bullied by the children.
well the head thought adiary would be useful as ds could write down the names of the kids bullying him .Ds was happy to do this as long as it was called a journal (diaries are for girls)
He started it yesterday,
entrees included names of kids and what they did ie stealing stuff from his book bag throwing it around, kicking him in the tummy,shouting over and over that he had rabies,calling him gay and freakand pushing him over.I was in the middle of talking to ds telling him how proud of him i was for getting it written down when the afore mentioned teacher came over.Here what she had to say.....
(teacher)your son was writing in this book during maths thats not acceptable
(me)no i accept that but its his journal to record the bullying ,if the bullying doesnt stop im not going to be able to get him to attend school
(teacher)he is not bullied he gives as good as he gets,and he wasnt being bullied in maths
(ds)yes i was they were stealing my stuff and saying i had rabies
(me) Are you saying that my son kicks other children in the stomach
(teacher)and when exactly were you kicked in the stomach
(ds) at lunchtime
(teacher)well you should have told someone then
(me) thats the point of the journal so he doesnt have to tell,it was the heads idea
(teacher)well no one told me about it so i think it should not take place til next we when we have full staff back from the residential
(me)well its took a lot to get to this point and if he wants to do it now he should be allowed to continue
(teacher)thomas you will not fill that journal in tomorrow if your being bullied you will tell me

aghhhhhhhhh........why is she so stubborn and why isnt she listening he has it so he doesnt have to tell.To think she called him obnoxious and rude.
her parting comment was im year 5 co ordinator and this will not take place without my knowledge.I think she nedds to crawl back out of her own butt.....Thanks feel bit better again now.

What a cow!
I'd go straight back over her head to the Head!

Your poor son must have felt bullied again by her and that he wasn't beleived!

It sounds like the teacher is annoyed to me. Could it be because you have gone to the head and not her. I know some teacher's don't like it when you go to the head. Not saying that you shouldn't because I've done it myself. Power struggle kicks in. To be honest I think she was really off with you. Afterall it was down to the head to discuss it with her. Why don't you asked to see the head again and get this sorted out. larsxx

what a don't put up with it. when my ds(sn) was being bullied we did the same thing told him to write it down. things didn't improve untill I said enough and took him out of school(just one day) and threated to get legal advice.
I would speak to her without your ds and tell her he is your son and he IS going to fill in the journal as that is what YOU want
Sorry this type of thing makes me so mad

HE did, he asked me if he could put teachers names in his journal,i said you can put anyones name in there son if they have said or done something that makes you feel bad.The head does back her staff and isnt overly understanding either, but ive got cids coming into school to assess on 17th so then there will be outside influence then. Hopefully me and ds make it til then it seems to be something or another everyday. As far as i can see its all just professional pride and they've labelled me an interfering mother.YOu are so right she is a COW

I was told by ds's old school ( notice old school) that I had more dealings with the LEA than any other parent in the school, rightly so he has SN and had many problems at school.

Don't stand for it. Some schools don't think they have bullying, that's because they fail to listen to children that have come forward or parents that speak out. larsxx

yes they fail to admit he has any problems even though he has dx of asperger comorbid adhd, until i bring up the bullying then suddenly its oh but are you sure he understands what bullying means......

That's awful, it appears they not very good with SN then. My ds has ASD, but I'm sure there is ADHD as well, what do you mean by comorbid adhd ? larsxx

it just means goes with adhd is most common but other comorbids include ...
ocd
dyslexia
dyspraxia
bi-polar disorder
depression
anxiety
though ds has prominent adhd he also displays signs of a lot of the above especially ocd.If you want to do a test for adhd ask for a connors rating scale to be done or check out dore on the web you can do an on screen test... they will try and flog you a cure though

this all sounds similar to my ds. He did score high for the connor score but saw different consultant and he changed his mind on this, but he is on the medication as his concentration was terrible. He is very hyper when he is on the medication and says rude words, etc.

Are you unhappy with the school anyway?
Just seems that they are sending confusing messages to your ds, this will create anxiety for him. larsxx

yes i believe they are terrible imstill building my confidence at the mo as son only got dx in nov.All this dealing with school, lea,key workers learning to ask the right question to get the right answer.I am an expert in one thing though and thats my ds and i will win and get him the best i can get him cos if i dont no-one else will other wise,but its terrible what happens to the children who's parents dont where to turn or where to start.Thank god for the person who started mums net it is brilliant.
I would ask for dx of adhd if i were you since they are medicating for it.Asd means a liking of order with adhd means disorganised causing child to be in a total muddle all the time.My ds wants to have pencil case, pe kit etc all in order but cant concentrate long enough to remeber to take it when he needs it which causes lots of meltdowns