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why can she not use her amazing memory for detail to some actual use?

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 09/02/2013 19:55

DD has an amazing memory for bizarre detsils.

Like.... When we went to the science museum I had quavers and dad said his shoes were rubbing and we did x y and z... Etc.

This happened about 8 years ago. She frequently remembers exact details of random things. I never ever win an argument about what I might have said 3 years ago.

So why can she not use it for schoolwork?

Grrrrrr.

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Ineedmorepatience · 09/02/2013 19:59

Oh, I wish taggie

Dd3 has a similarly amazing memory for totally useless stuff but cant get ready for school without a visual timetable

There is no logic to it

nupurkumarika · 09/02/2013 20:00

Ha ha...this is funny

troutsprout · 09/02/2013 20:02

I wish this too

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Ineedmorepatience · 09/02/2013 20:06

Not that funny nurpur, when it means losing all your stuff and not remembering that you have homework or what you went upstairs for

I think my Dd3 would gladly swap the skill of remembering what I had on my sandwich at the zoo 2 yrs ago for the ability to remember to put her water bottle and her dinner money in her bag before she leaves the house in the morning without needing a visual reminder!!

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TaggieCampbellBlack · 09/02/2013 20:09

I do hope that she can channel it to usefulness someday.

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silverfrog · 09/02/2013 20:14

Dd1 does this too.

I dread hearing the words "yesterday a long time ago..." (her version of past tense indicating anything further back than a week or so).

The stuff she remembers is unbelievable, and she gets very frustrated if I don't immediately remember too.

So eg "yesterday a long time ago you said we could go for a walk but it rained and we couldn't. Where was daddy and what did he do?"

MareeyaDolores · 09/02/2013 20:55

Oh yes
My theory is they can't remember the water bottle cos they're so overloaded memorising 'today' for posterity

No-one could grab the right stuff whilst melting down due to realising exactly which cereal had run out, and working out why Daddy was wearing the other work shoes, plus knowing that Mum had said we'd walk to school on Monday and today is like a Monday (even though its Tuesday) because there was an INSET day.

MareeyaDolores · 09/02/2013 20:56

[I know this because of also forgetting the water bottle most days ]

JeffFaFa · 09/02/2013 22:21

ds does this as well, he can tell me what happened when he was 2 (7 now) what we ate where we went etc but cant tell me what happened at school 10 mins ago, drives me crazy. Maybe i should ask him in a year or so he might remember then.

Strongecoffeeismydrug · 09/02/2013 23:47

DS knows what we bought from what shop at every holiday destination he's ever been in from the age of 2! He's now 8 and gets very challenging when I can't remember what can of pop I bought him at greggs 6 years ago ect
His amazing memory is the cause of most of his meltdowns cos I can't do everything the same as it was done the first time as I forget.
Sooooo frustrating

BigBoobiedBertha · 10/02/2013 00:25

I think it is to do with different sorts of memory. My DS1 is the same. Can remember minute details about things we did years ago but can't remember that I asked him to put on his shoes and put his lunch in his bag. The bit after 'and' invariably gets lost.

I think there are issues with working memory with my DS and with procedural memory where you can remember the steps required to carry out a task. It would explain why he isn't great at maths. He is pretty good at subjects like history though because it relies on declarative memory and remembering facts and figures.

I also think it is to do with things which interest him and things that don't he just ignores which is a fair bit of some subjects at school.

Not sure what can be done about it though other than to repeat important things over and over, but for a child with mild AS like my DS, that just isn't going to happen. No teacher in mainstream really has the time.

troutsprout · 10/02/2013 08:55

We moved to our present town and house when ds ( asd) had just had his first birthday. He's now 15.
A few years back...He was describing a patchy memory of a view he remembered of his father doing washing up through the doorway and orange paint and checked tiles. He didn't know where it was.
It was the view from his high chair through to the sink in the kitchen in our old terraced house in our old city. So he was describing something that he saw under the age of 13 months.

Now... If he could just transfer that skill to the short term memory department, everything would be just that little bit easier.

Ineedmorepatience · 10/02/2013 10:20

Wow trout that is some memory

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