asd and parties

[dontknowwhat2callmyself]

DD has got a party invite at anther childs house next week. We have accepted the invitite - it is a pick up/drop off. I think DD will be ok although it is the first time she will be left at a party on her own. She is quite passive and has a good understanding of social situations so will not cause any problems as such. I am still a little nervous - the other mother has my contact number if needed. How do your kids get on at parties do they manage ok - just wondering if I am being a bit optimistic (I guess by this time next week I will know)!

He rarely gets invited, but when he has been, it has always gone fine according to the hosting parent, and they have never had to call me. He usually takes part in the activity, eats a little bit of food when it's offered and then finds something to obsess over entertain him until hometime.

He has been invited to two parties in the last year; at one he played with the birthday child's younger sibling, and at the other he was a star and behaved much better than a lot of the NT boys.

My two love parties - DS1 tends not to take part much, but likes to watch what's going on and eat the food. DS2 does take part after a fashion but has a tendency to get a bit overexcited (along with some of the others!).

The kids who invite them know them well (kids who don't tend not to invite them anyway) so things generally go fine. The parties in soft play places usually work best as they just run around in a group and not much else in the way of social skills needs to go on, but in a couple of years they'll start getting a bit old for those so not sure what's going to happen after that. I'd say make the most of it if/when your DD can still go!

It will be fine. How lovely that she's been invited. I'd be tempted to loiter at the start and come back early, though. Unless she thinks it's all over when you arrive. So long as the hosts know you DD and you make it clear you'd rather they rang you than tried to cope with any problem. My DS2 went to a few big hall, bouncy castle, whole class parties and was fine.

My DD has Aspergers, she has generally coped ok at parties, I have stayed if she wanted me to, but she's been ok to be there on her own. There was one occasion when I had to bring her back but it was a role play party and the mum knew of her situation and suspected it may not work out, everyone was fine about it.

My DD was always ok at parties, if a little 'excitable' then last year she had horrible meltdowns at two parties, getting fairly aggressive at one now chooses not to go. she has even said she doesn't want to come to her sisters party in a few months "just incase I get upset and hurt someone again"

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