OT asking if she can refer DD to Child and adolescent mental health worker, why would I say no?

[Snowstorm]

Hi, this is my first time on the SN threads so please excuse my ignorance and/or any unintentional slights, as this is all new to me.

Unofficially it is thought that DD has dyspraxic tendencies and a few AS ones too. We've just started seeing an OT who has asked me whether she can refer DD to a CAMHS (Child and adolescent mental health) worker as she was wondering whether DD would meet the threshold for early intervention. I think this is relating to her unrealistic high standards and levels of anxiety. DD is on the waiting lists to see a physio and a paediatrician but that was presented to me as a done deal and I wasn't asked permission for these referrals.

She asked that DH and I consider the CAMHS referral and get back to her and she asked in such a way that I might refuse. I'm new to all of this and wonder if there are underlying implications and/or reasons why people would say no.

Am I missing something very obvious here ... or just coming across as paranoid?!

TIA

YOu can perhaps say you're not against the idea, but you will make your decision when you have her rationale/reasons in writing!?

I mean, is she being referred for anxiety strategies? Diagnostic purposes? suspected trauma?

You can also ask what, if anything the OT think will benefit your dd from the referral?

I do mean to phone and ask the OT to explain further but thought it best to check on here first that I wasn't missing something extremely obvious. I think it would be for perfectionism and anxiety strategies.

YOu can also ask who exactly she would be referred to and then phone them and ask them what they might be able to do for your dd, before agreeing.?

Good ideas - I've dropped the OT an email as a starter - thank you. Mind boggling all these acronyms and procedures ... I have brain ache from this merry-go-round and we've only just started!

Where are you snowstorm? In my area CAMHS diagnose asd.

Thanks for your post mindfulmum. Am so sorry to hear of your daughter's experience but really appreciate you replying to me as it's all useful to know and to take into account.

As I said, I'm new to all this and whilst I want the best for my DD, of course, I can't help but feel cautious about who she's meeting and why and also whether it'd be better to get through the OT, physio and paediatrician first and see whether they agree that she has yet more appointments. DD is 8 and conscious of the amount of time she's taking off school for all these appointments - doesn't really want to explain things to her friends because she doesn't want to be different from them and so keeps saying that she's going to the doctor.

The OT did say that DD might not meet the criteria to even meet a CAMHS though.

Am in Lambeth troutsprout. Yes, DD has some AS traits but we don't know whether she has enough to be diagnosed with it. DH is a little in denial. I think he thinks that DD is just a little quirky and probably needs to be told to shut up and get on with it, so to speak.

Do paediatrician's diagnose ASD's or just CAMHS?

Okay, thank you for your thoughts. It's good to be able to come on here and bounce my whirling thoughts off people with more experience.

I'll talk to DH again.

Sometimes they will ask because they work with families all together not just the child.
Also some parents are funny about CAMHS. my dd (5) has been referred to CAMHS as they can diagnose things and help her with her anxieties and behavioural issues.

I wouldnt worry too much but it an only help though...

We talked about it and have given the OT the go-ahead and a thank you.
Thank you all for getting back to me though, it's helped me a lot.

Any professional / agency would need permission to refer your child to another one, so asking your permission should be normal.
She's no doubt asked in such a way that suggests she doesn't know what your answer will be, because there are a lot of parents who don't want a referral to CAMHS. There is a bit of an issue with some parents about coming to terms with the fact their child may need support with mental health issues - it sounds more screy somehow than 'a physiotherapist' or even 'a paediatrician'.

x posted!

I think you are right Backforgood