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Looks like I'll be stepping once more into the breech. :(

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YourHandInMyHand · 05/02/2013 21:06

I've had the straw that broke the camel's back today with DS's school. Sad

Have come to realisation I am going to have to pull him out immediately (they really let him down safety wise today) and find a new school in the area. He's been extremely unhappy there for a while but after today I no longer trust them with him safety wise as well as worrying about his emotional well being. Need either another MS primary that is very good with SEN or a SS.

We live in England and he has a statement with his current school named on it. How much of a battle am I looking at here?

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EllenJaneisstillnotmyname · 05/02/2013 23:27

I think you need to call an emergency statement review and get on to the LA with your concerns re his safety ASAP. What support does he get on his statement ATM? How many hours 1:1. Get everything in writing, even if it's just you 'clarifying' the situation with school and LA. Hopefully more experienced posters will spot this.

coff33pot · 05/02/2013 23:49

I am going to tell you a secret. Been there and done that lol and it isnt as bad as you think x

Correct protocol have you emailed the HT with your concerns or do you think its gone beyond that now. If you have then great.

Like Ellen said call an emergency review but do it in writing or email as you need a paper trail to cover your back.

State in the email to the LA that you consider your sons safety and well being to be at risk and state your reasons and examples. If you feel the statement is not being adhered to then state so and again which parts and the reason why to see it not being met and the end result of how its affecting DS.

If you have had a convo with HT/SENCO then put that in word for word. I then copied the HT into the email to the LA to show its transparency and that you have nothing to hide or alter that its all fact. I politely put at the foot that this you consider to be an emergency and that you are now keeping your son home until his needs are met and his safety is assured. Then put that you would much prefer your DS to be in school so you look forward to hearing from them with an appointment asap. Give them 3 days and then ring.

Always keep in your head that the LA is responsible for your sons education and welfare so that includes safety. If the school dont follow the statement then the LA is at fault so the onus is on them to put it right.

This should rush things through a bit for you.

If you really dont want your son there then the school has a chance at this meeting to say they cant meet his needs and their reasons for it. This could possibly give you a chance to request a school move?

I took a gamble and home ed my DS there was no way his school were ever going to agree to care for him and support him correctly but they changed to an academy.

It gets different then as it is entirely up to you how you wish to move on. I took my son out but I volountarily home ed and that meant that his school had NO RESPONSIBILITY or ties to him anymore I plainly de reg him. In writing I put that I was pulling him out of school to home ed until transition to his new school but he was due to join juniors and so that could be different for you if you have no move in place. Plus keeping ties with crap school can mean they are still responsible for educating him and maybe home tutor? or at least educational supplies. But I would see what LA brings and what idea you have of the way the review is going then come back and someone more legally minded can advise you and give you more ideas to work from.

In other words go with the flow as what works for one parent may not for another x follow your instincts and the more options you can have to choose from the better. I expect more will post tomorrow with a bit more experience from different angles. Good luck :)

Good luck.

zzzzz · 06/02/2013 00:13

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coff33pot · 06/02/2013 00:20

x @ zzzzz If only everything was so simple as it is read here hmmm?

I just hope it helps. OH and if you pull your hair out? it does grow back Grin

YourHandInMyHand · 06/02/2013 18:04

Wow thanks for amazing replies. Smile Been on phone today with NAS, kids, etc.

Had also sent off a complaint about yesterday's incident to the head in which I stated he would not be returning in the immediate future due to my concerns for his safety.

Didn't know about the option of calling for an emergency statement review, I will do that. Am waiting now for KIDS to assign me a parent partnership worker.

I will NOT be returning him into this school. My faith in them has gone and I feel very shaken by what could have happened to DS yesterday. If that means home schooling for a while I'll have to do that and hope my last thread of sanity holds.

Do I officially deregister him then, or wait for now?

I have called up possible schools and made appointments to view them without DS.

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YourHandInMyHand · 07/02/2013 08:16

I feel so flat today. Tired and sad and overwhelmed, like I've been stomped on. :-(

I wish I could just click my fingers and everything be alright.

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YourHandInMyHand · 07/02/2013 10:08

I know I couldn't home ed long term, I just don't have it in me. Feel guilty saying this but school time is my respite. Sad

Do I put my faith back in the school and hope for changes?
Put him in a different MS and hope he doesn't continue to struggle, considering it will be a new bigger school for him?
Fight to get him in special school even though he is bright and none of the SS here do GCSEs?

It's days like this I wish there was another adult around the house to talk to.

Glad your DS I coming on zzzzz, makes it all worthwhile I bet. Smile

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YourHandInMyHand · 07/02/2013 10:41

I have an appointment to chat with the head at possible new mainstream tomorrow afternoon, the first appointment I could get to go in and chat with the head at the SS isn't for weeks which is a bit disappointing.

I hadn't thought of a split placement, not sure how I would go about that but kids worker may have come across it so when I am assigned one I will ask them. I did wonder about doing a few gcses out of school if he is up to it at that age. I guess I feel as I am radically reviewing his schooling I may as well look right to the end of it 8-16, rather than just sorting him and then in 2 years having to make decisions yet again about secondary school.

Yes we have school hols here next week and I am just going to focus on having a nice time with DS.

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