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Anxious mommy

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redbull · 25/04/2006 15:31

tomorrow my ds goes back to his special school after beeing off for 15 weeks with a brocken leg14 of wich he has been in a cast,ds has ASD,He broke his leg at school so i know they will be watching him like a hawk i just cant kick this feeling that they cant watch him like i can because im his mommy, i dont want him to go back just want to keep him at home with me as i know that he will allways be safe with me

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2shoes · 25/04/2006 15:32

no advice just wanted to wish him luck,(used to be twoshoes)

coppertop · 25/04/2006 15:42

;( redbull.

Good luck to your ds for tomorrow. xxx

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redbull · 26/04/2006 08:25

Well the mini bus has just picked him up and he has gone off all smiling and waving and im left a nervous reck

i shall have to see how he gets on as im going to be phoning them every hour

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2shoes · 26/04/2006 11:46

I am sure he will be fine. but know just hoe you feel:o

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redbull · 26/04/2006 13:26

i have phoned the school 3 times already and his teacher has said on all 3 accounts he is doing really well you wouldnt even think hed been off for so long
cant wait for 4 then he will be home and he will be all mine again

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tobysmumkent · 26/04/2006 13:37

Hope your DS has had a happy day - enjoy the cuddles at 4pm!!!

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redbull · 26/04/2006 14:17

Oh i will, well thats if he will let me the little monkey!

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coppertop · 26/04/2006 17:49

Just checking in to see how his first day back went. :)

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redbull · 26/04/2006 17:55

It went really well thankyou he came home all smiles and was really happy to see me he wont tell me anything about whats happened at school but he never used to anyway! his teacher has written in his diary that its as if he hasnt been off. its such a weight off my mind knowing he is happy to go back.

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coppertop · 26/04/2006 18:06

Hurray! :o

I know what you mean about them never telling you what they've done.

Me: What did you do today?

Ds1: Errr....I don't know. :o

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redbull · 26/04/2006 22:36

Oh boy o boy o boy, ds just gone to sleep and ds hasnt got much speach but was saying school closed no school mommy please, he said it in his own little way
Dont know how to handle or cope with ds 2morrow morning

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macwoozy · 26/04/2006 22:50

15 weeks is such a long time to be off school, it might take him a bit of time to adjust to being at school again instead of at home with mum. I do hope it's not too hard for you tomorrow morning.

tobysmumkent · 26/04/2006 23:13

Don't feel bad (ha ha, easier said than done...). Your DS has just had a massive change to his routine, only fair to expect him to take some time adjusting. You say, and teacher says, he was happy during his day, so that's massively positive. And probably means that you get the guilt-inducing reactions to your DS's adjusting to a new routine, to make you feel much worse than you should!!....good luck, you can both do it!!!

coppertop · 27/04/2006 10:16

I agree with the others about it being a big change to his usual routine.

I hope it went okay for you both this morning. xx

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redbull · 27/04/2006 11:11

he was ok this morning then as ge was about to get on the mini bus i seen is little bottom lip starting to shake and his eyes filling up
he sat down and the guide on the bus but his seatbelt on and the whole time he was staring at me with tears coming down his little pink cheeks then he told the guide no bag (he didnt want to hold his bag) and i said be happy for mommy i love you and he did a very little nod.

Just phoned school 3 times allready and he is really happy, eating bovril sarnys and is just happy.

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coppertop · 27/04/2006 11:31

I wonder if it could be a problem with transition. Ds2, for example, has always loved pre-school but for a long time he used to throw himself on to the ground when he arrived in the morning and then kicked off again at home-time. Thankfully this eventually stopped.

macwoozy · 27/04/2006 11:35

Oh dear, that must have been really hard for you this morning seeing him off on the school bus. But it does sound really positive that the school are saying he's happy there, maybe he just gets a little tearful in the morning, perhaps he's just a bit apprehensive as it's a huge change to his routine. Give him a few days and I bet he'll be back to his old self.

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redbull · 27/04/2006 11:48

just had the school on the phone about PE, last thursday the doctor said ds is to be excluded from PE for 4 weeks, the school have just said mondays and fridays PE is done in the class and his teacher cant find an alternative for ds so would i be ok if he joined in its only things like ring a ring a roses and walking and skipping and stuff she said so i said i will only be ok if the school nurse gives the ok.
Then i was thinking i have sent ds back to school entrusting they will keep him safe, when he is at home he is my responsability when at school he is their responsability and if i give the ok and something does happen then they wont take the shit of it as i said ok, so i have my doctors to get their opinion thy are phoning back before lunch, so i phoned the school back and spoke to the deputy head and said all this to her she said they can make alternate arrangements for ds? so why did hid teacher say she couldnt? I feel as if she thinks its a burden having ds their having to really watch him and it was her fault he broke his leg in the first place
then i just phoned dp at work to tell him and hes got angry with me saying im over reackting
Im just worried as they are doing say ring a ring a roses one child will fall over they will all go down like dominoes and then ds will have his leg broke again.
Am i over reacting is dp right???

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macwoozy · 27/04/2006 12:04

I don't think you are over reacting, I'm sure I would react in the same way. Having his leg in plaster for 14 weeks must have been an awful strain for both of you, and it's only natural to worry so much for your ds. However I bet the school are watching him like a hawk, especially since the accident happened at the school. Was it a bad break redbull?

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redbull · 27/04/2006 12:30

Yes it was it happened in the playground at ds school they only tale children on the Autism Spectrum there were 4 children in total out side with 2 members of staff the teacher went inside to tell the room assistants to get snack ready as she went in one child fell over as the other member of staff went to help the child what we can gather happened is 1 VERY violent boy pushed another and my ds isnt affraid of this other boy unlike the other 10 kids in the class so my ds pushed him back and shouted NO then this boy pushed ds over and then pushed the other boy on top off my ds then this boy jumped on them as my ds was trying to get up wich resulted him breacking his leg so if the teacher HADNT LEFT the playground it wouldnt have happened
Then we had to spend 5 days in hospital as he had to have operation just to have the cast put on as he was so distressed it boke the bone between his knee and ankle they thought he might of broke the bone in his thigh as well and woundered about his arm as well.
He has really been through it really traumatised by it, After it happened the head done a full enquirery into it and found all this out

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redbull · 27/04/2006 14:43

School still havent phoned me back about PE 2morrow, i wounder if i have unsettled them as im usually a very placid person just goes with yhe flow and never speacks out of term, but im affraid i can no longer keep my gob shut!
I think its so rude whey dont phone you back

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redbull · 27/04/2006 16:19

well the doctor has just phoned and has said no ds should not be doing ANY kind of PE, just phoned school deputy was nice about it wounder how ds teacher will take it?????

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coppertop · 27/04/2006 17:50

I can't believe they wanted him to do PE! He's been off because of a broken leg - not a broken fingernail FFS!

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redbull · 27/04/2006 18:46

its a bloody cheek isnt it

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redbull · 27/04/2006 22:47

dp has seen the right side of it now and said he doesnt want ds doing PE either, have to wait and see what 2morrw brings

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