New As diagnosis

[lovemy3boys]

I'm very new to this forum so forgive me the symbols/acronyms aren't right. My 6 year old ds has been diagnosed with As and had receptive language problems. My question/quandry(well one of many!!) is what/how to tell his older brothers (11 and 8), they feel like ds3 gets away with too much and get cross with him over his little 'ways'. Any advice?? Thanks xx

Hello and welcome :)
I would suggest reading "Can i tell you about Asperger syndrome" with them. It's really clear and simple. DS1 has AS along with someone else in his class. When the book was read to the class to tell them about the other child's diagnosis, DS1 realised he had AS (I had never told him he was on the waiting list for dx at the time).
It may help them realise that your DS isn't doing things on purpose.

Thank you for such a quick and helpful response. We haven't told DS3 his diagnosis yet - still trying to get my head around it all. I know its a wide spectrum, some bits fit some dont but guess thats the nature of it. /emo/te/3.gif

can't do the smiley list things - hence random web thing on end!!

With DS1 I waited until he brought up struggling to make friends that he actually had Aspergers, at that point, probably a year or two after the above episode, I told him about his dx, we went back through the book together. He would have been about 9 at the time.

DS2 is 6, he also has an HFA dx. I haven't told him yet, and don't know when I will as he is currently blissfully unaware of his difficulties, whereas it really worried DS1.

DS3 is only 4, he is definitely NT (neurotypical) and at some point I will have to explain his brothers' dx's to him. He already gets upset that they forget to say goodbye to him for example.

BTW to do smileys, below the box you type messages in is a 'smileys list' so for e.g. to do a write [ smile ] without the spaces.

Thanks x Having bad day today feeling very tearful about it all. DS3 talks about not having friends and was telling me about his quiet area desk at school today. Ordered the book you recommended to help explain it all. tiny steps xx

I have had alot of issues with my older Dd's not accepting Dd3's dx (diagnosis). They are totally convinced that she is spoilt.

I have used the book Inside Aspergers Looking Out with Dd3 and Dd2 and I have spent hours explaining to Dd2 why Dd3 has to be treated differently from her and Dd1.

Dd1 isnt living at home anymore and almost certainly has undx'ed aspergers. She finds it extremely difficult to understand and empathise but we do our best to be patient and keep reinforcing stuff.

Obviously my Dd's are older but we have been working on this for a really long time. I would say that from my experience once all the Dc's know about the dx even with limited understanding, it makes open discussion about difficulties much easier and understanding improves .

Good luck