DS is 8 and has an ASD - under the old diagnostic criteria he'd have a dx of Aspergers.
He attends MS school and has generally done well. I have always felt that his school were supportive and helpful. Year 2 was a particularly good year with a firm but fair teacher and he did well academically and socially. It was during year 2 that we got our dx.
When DS began year 3 in September I took in a copy of 'Can I Tell You About Aspergers Syndrome' which seemed to be well received and his CT claims to have read it and says it is doing the rounds of the dinner ladies - all well and good. I had some minor niggly worries about comments such as 'Well, he'll have to learn' and 'He has to accept that sometimes he just has to get on with it'.
A couple of months ago a minor bullying issue came to a head and was revealed to be a massive bullying issue - for the most part it has been dealt with but there are still children in his year group who feel it is acceptable to torment DS and the sanctions beign applied don't seem to outweigh the delight they get from winding him up and watchin him implode.
After Christmas his CT went off to have an operation. She is being covered for the most part by the teacher who DS has on a Friday. DS also goes to the other year 3 teacher for maths and literacy. They are both having real issues with his behaviour. I ahve tried to explain that confrontation and threats of the DH (who DS hates with a assion as he is so shouty) are not the way to get him to do work he is anxious about.
Things came to a head on Friday when his maths and literacy teacher treated him with such unfairness. DS had been refusing to do his work so she threatened him with his name going on the board if he said no to her again. There was then an incident when one of DS's tormentors (who he was being made to work with - WTF!) tormented him and DS shouted at him. Teacher then asked DS if he'd shouted at the TA. DS answered no - quite truthfully - and got his name on the board for saying no to her. WTF was he supposed to say? She asked him a bloody yes/no question and DS doesn't do lying.........
By Monday DS was in bits - not sleeping, not wanting to go to school. he said he could no longer trust the teacher.......
Since Monday I have had 2 long telephone conversations with the HT and written an email. I have made reference to the SEN code of practice and asked for DS to have an Individual Behaviour Plan - something he does not currently have. I am kicking ass.
So, my point - and I do have one 
- is how long so I give them to get an IBP in place before I don my ass kicking shoes once more? (No point thinking about SA - DS is at school in Notts - 'tis an inclusive county doncha know! - a pox on that!)
Sorry thsi was so painfully long! Could probably do with a honk or two!