Was going to put this in AIBU but thought it may be better here. Dh and i keep butting heads over this. Ds is almost 7 and a sensory seeker ive never felt it impacted on his eating though other than appetite possibly. He is ALWAYS hungry to the point hes obsessive of food asks everyone for food over and over and picks up wrappers to sniff in the street! but hes fussy, the reason i think its general fussyness is he eats any sweets, cakes, biscuits etc, most cereal, any crisps. But will only eat cheese or jam on a sandwich every single day no meat at all, at dinner time he will eat, homemade pasta, macaroni and curry he will eat any freezer food sausages, fish fingers, oven chips general rubbish basically but wont eat any veg at all. He will eat chicken nuggets from a shop but not homemade or chicken in curry but not chicken breast on its own, he will eat mince in lasagne but not in bolognese, he likes beans but dosnt like anything touching them. Tonight i made chicken in bacon, with roast potatoes and veg, he ate nothing, he likes chicken and he likes bacon but wouldnt eat it, he likes chips but not roast potatoes or potatoes of any kind. I eventually persuaded him to taste a tiny millimeter of roastie and he gagged! dramatic. Ive always taken the approach of if he dosnt eat he goes without he will learn, but he dosnt learn this has went on for years so he goes to bed hungry, dh thinks hes not learning so its cruel and i should make alternative meals. Surely if hes happy to eat rubbish then hes just playing it though?
I feel like his eating his going backwards generally, eating more and more with hands, eating food really slowly and taking it to bits so it ends up everywhere, moaning if food touches other food on the plate, should i keep doing what im doing or take another approach?