Asd and losing baby teeth

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Dd recently diagnosed with asd has severe s and language disorder and lots of confused ideas which are impossible to get to the bottom of.

I just sat with her while she pulled out a slightly wobbley tooth because a teacher had said the tooth fairy would come. She was terrified! She was covered in blood after but so pleased that she could now sleep after an evening of serious anxiety over it which took along time to work out with the language issue.

Anyone else have similar? She has seizures in response to stress and pain and I am surprised there wasn't one, she was so scared but determined.

For Dd3 it is the sensory issues involved with the wobbly tooth that causes mayhem.

She just cannot leave it alone, she fiddles with her tongue and fingers until it comes out. Often causing alot of blood because it wasnt ready.

Dd1 got infections in her mouth regularly when her teeth were wobbly from poking around with dirty fingers. It has made us more conscious of keeping an eye on Dd3.

Oh and Dd3 very quickly got the hang of getting money for teeth but has recently informed me that she doesnt believe in the tooth fairy anymore!

She is 10 though so fair enough

Hope your Dd doesnt upset herself too much with the next wobbly tooth

DD#1 was terrified when her first tooth came out, but she had been keen to get it out and have the tooth fairy come. After the first one she wouldn't encourage any more out when they were loose and would hang on with them by a thread for days. We still have a fair number left to go yet, but of about the 8 she has lost, 7 have stayed in until they came out with no assistance!

Oh. Dear yes the sensory issues had dd gagging and stretching,she was just so determined no fairies would be coming in. She would not have it that there would be no fairy because "teacher said fairy my pillow"!

Her first one she swallowed but the second made her vomit, the whole thing confuses and scares her so much poor thing. We watched Charlie and Lola about a lost tooth, it's hard. To find stories about it without tooth fairies in though so if anyone has seen or heard of one let me know.

Similar at Christmas I had to promise not to let Father Christmas in the house.s

Oh dear poltergoose! And I need thanks, and good point re infection this one definitely was not ready to come out.

Seriously bad school anxiety today . She hid from me and cried and hit me and ran away and any trick to avoid getting dressed then lay on th floor refusing to get up when it was time to go.

She also keeps having dreams and thinking they are real,ie she said her friend (lovely little girl who looks out for her,her first girl friendship there really) hitting her and then it came out it happened at night not at school so was a dream but she thought it was real.

School seem to think she is in the habit of this now but I think it's genuine anxiety. Exhausted!

My two both hate the feeling of a loose tooth and it puts them off their food a bit. DS1 is 9, so has lost 8 teeth now (he doesn't even care about the tooth fairy, any more) and has become a bit more tolerant and able to rationalise what's happening and ask for food to be softer or cut up smaller for him etc. DS2's just lost the one, so far and was in a bit of a state on the day before it came out, then really relieved once it was gone. We never saw it again, mind!

As for the tooth fairy - our tooth fair comes and retrieves the old tooth from a little pot on the kitchen windowsill, so no mucking about in bedrooms.

DD1 recently lost a tooth and while it was wobbly, she stood in front of a mirror cackling 'my toooof is cominnnng outttt'

She was wobbling it forcefully.

DS hates the feeling of a wobbly tooth so his have all hung by threads and most have been swallowed. I've sat opposite him while he's been eating and his tooth has literally been flapping forwards at right angles .

How about tooth under a pillow on the sofa downstairs?
And make your own story.

Good ideas about where tooth fairy comes, meant to say above that at Christmas I take the presents from father c at the door, thank him and give him his drink there! Can see why the idea of a random man or fairy (ESP as dd doesn't know what a fairy is really and has,I suspect muddled the idea with marks on the wall, a phobia of hers) coming in your room is alarming.

Interesting,she had been off her food before this,bet it felt funny. And love all the wobbley teeth stories!

Dd was even scared this morning when I gave her some money for it,she said "I have that when I big girl. Not now"!

Sorry about my very brief reply above, I was on my phone and have limited typing skills on that thing.
My DS got a bit upset about his first wobbly tooth as he took it to mean all of his teeth were going to fall out, at once.
Think there's a topsy and tim about losing a tooth, too. Possibly 'the dentist' one.
I would def do a social story myself though, then you can tailor the specifics of when /where/if the tooth fairy comes.
Can you do one for dreams, too?

Good idea, I have borrowed a book from our support group on them there may even be one there or I could write one. It's so sad when you realise why they are quite so worried. We had a year of terrible nights Y

There's a Peppa Pig story about wobbly teeth I think.

I was dreading DS losing his teeth as he worries about the merest scratch! The first one started off as a bit traumatic - he first thought it meant ALL his teeth would come out and then he woried that he would then have a gap for ever and ever! Once we got over that - lots of chat about adult teeth and mummy and daddy having teeth etc - he was fine. He's still a believer at 8.

It's so hard when they can't explain the phobia isn't it? Dd been awful about her after school dance thing and not been this term then said finally her trainers hurt-they were too small and that presumably was the issue.

Been today to get new shoes and trainers. Forty mins to get her out the shop after buying them with horrified parents looking on.

Now she won't be left alone as so anxious that she has another wobbley tooth. I feel at breaking point tbh and nothing seems to calm her.because I sat with her last time till she pulled it out she thinks we have to do that again and it's nowhere near ready. Help!

My dd4 absolutely freaked out when she lost two of her teeth ( seperately) .

She was terrified of tooth fairy ...she lost one tooth during school and her assistant told her the tooth fairy would come to get it whilst she was sleeping .

Not fun .... Dd4 refused to go to sleep incase the fairy " stole " her tooth . She tried several times to put the tooth back in the hole it left when it fell out . Every where she went she had the tooth firmly in her hand and refused to part with it until we made a big thing of a special tooth box which was fairy-proof. (....So no fairy could never steal her teeth ) .

Having given a great sigh of relief ,when dd4 decided that the special box was a good place to keep the tooth , we were dismayed to discover that dd4 had came to the conclusion that not only were her teeth under threat of being stolen whilst she slept , but also could be taken during the day by dentists ect .. Yes the dentist , the child smile people and even the doctor was in cahoots with the tooth fairy .Dd4 was distraught with fear that her teeth could be taken at any minute ,and refused to smile , talk ,eat show her teeth at all. ( where she got this from I still don't know , but suspect teenage brothers )

Eventually she calmed down ( teeth are still in special box , and she likes to check that they are still there ) .

School has been warned ....no more tooth fairys , Easter bunnys or Santa stories ....

Droves what a nightmare and one I can see we could be heading towards, isn't it draining?! Good idea with the box, dd has been worrying over the last tooth and where it is. She is still awake,petrified because she can't pull the tooth out and thinks the tooth fairy will come. I told school but not sure they are getting how serious this is, think I will have to talk to the teacher tomorrow if I can get her there early enough.

Her meds have just been upped for her genetic condition and that always makes her behaviour more rigid, and more hyperactive initially. Dh has persuaded her to lie in bed till I come up so I am gathering strength.

Oh this is getting worse. Just went up and she was lying, waiting for me as she was too scared to start pulling the tooth out without me there (presumably because she just can't believe us that the tooth fairy wont come and snatch the tooth when it comes out)

And she asked me for a knife! I've come down to get her a little mirror as she keeps getting up to che k it in her big mirror. This is a nightmare, the baby is actually asleep for once but I'm up with dd1, I am so tired! Sorry for the moan I am just so exhausted and the trip to get shoes earlier nearly did me in, the stares and how obviously different dd is, some parents looked horrified and embarrassed, a grandma smiled kindly at me as I apologised about dd barging in on their toddlers go on the ride on car thing, she kept telling them it go round round. Her obsession is round and round. Argh I hate that I apologised as if she is an embarrassment. Now this and I really need a break from her tonight. Oh and she had blood in her poo earlier at school and I missed the do tors call back about it.

Had to blurt that out, sorry! Been trying to sort out baby dd2 s sleep and was up every two hours last night so not my best.

Used2bethin , what a day you've had !

Why isn't there a service for asd kids , where they can " officially " opt out of visits from tooth fairy , Santa ect ? . Online or send in a letter type thing ....might help the fairy -phobics like our dc ? .

Given that a lot of kids love computers and games , I'd even settle for a ds game or something .

Is your little girl still awake ? , perhaps if she could make a " no tooth fairy allowed " sign for her bedroom door she might settle ? .

I hope you get to rest soon .

Great idea about opting out! And thank you, think i sounded a bit like I'd lost it then but I was beginning to.

I went to take her the mirror and she was asleep. I'm very worried ill have her up in the night tonight though now. And baby is now awake! I'm feeding her now which has at least made me feel calmer if still exhausted!

I think I will get her to do a sign or I will do one w ith her tomorrow while she's calmer before gets too tired.