Ds referred back to camhs BUT the doc thinks only way forward is Anti-depressants for me

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Because truthfully he doesn't think that going back through reassessment will access any help this time either. So this is the only solution he can offer.

The stress of the situation and behaviour has got to the point where it constantly hurts to breathe and sleep no longer happens. I am really struggling with the melt downs/red rages of recent not coping by ds.

Would you opt to go down this route knowing that this is just sweeping the issues under the carpet so nothing has to be done to resolve the situation or would see this as a way of easing the situation so that there is the energy to fight to try to get the help?

I might take anti-depressents in order to regroup and focus on the way forward if that was what was needed, but not as a solution, no.

If you are struggling to get your child diagnosed and he is denied the right support, have you considered a private initial assessment with a clinical psychologist? Costs about £150.00.

You can take St. John's Wort tablets - helps big time for anxiety.

Don't give up.

I would also take them, to help with your fight to get the right support for your dc

Tbh all i think that will happen if I take them is that I go back to fixing as much as i can without any support because I am too scared of what will happen if i don't and let things get back enough to force people to step in and help. I don't want ds to get that bad. My biggest problem for diagnosis and accessing help is a lot of the time the strategies are already place and thus the issues are reduced allowing people to go not severe enough when they assess him in a coping phase. Because by the time they actually see us, i have worked my ass of trying to balance the child and prevent things from getting any worse. I am, in terms of diagnosis and outside support my own worst enemy. But having been failed by a system I don't want ds to have to go through the severe damage of that. It is a catch 22.

Am seeing the doc tomo and will discuss with a more open mind over the issue of anti depressants. Thanks.

Wishing you lots of luck for the appointment x

Get the right support for you even if it is tablets. You will then be able to get back to getting help for your dc. Don't let the attitude of GP put you off. A positive bit is that they've re-referred. If you haven't yet been seen by camhs and were previously rejected by their panel, try sending in additional information. We sent a letter along with the appeal info that explained our journey to date, stategies and situation at that point. It helped and we were taken on. Good luck with your appointment.

I would take them if you feel they will help you.

BUT I would consider tonight if you were happy with the first camhs referral? obviously you gained no support and have been left in limbo?

You are able to request a second opinion/re referral to another area that would be possibly a fresh approach?

I would use them to get my head straight as to where you go from here without getting snowed under. One thing at a time. I would start recording EVERY incident however small in a diary/log. Note what strategies you used and if they worked or if not what was the outcome.

All this will help the proffessional see how your son lives and breathes. A lot of children hold it together or calm it down in a quite medical room, office so the true colours do not show and mine was a star at it! :)

Thanks for all the advice. I saw a doc who has not been involved with ds' care. My doc rather then his. Interesting she has not put me on AD's but I have a diagnosis of a chronic pain disorder. Which makes sense of a lot of other stuff that has been going on and has not surprised any of my medical friends. One of which simply said I had wondered.

I have to say I was very very disillusioned with the first assessment and very reluctant to go down the reassessment route. Incredibly reluctant. We have been sent back to the same department and even originally given the same advisor. We have a new advisior but I have boxes and boxes of paperwork and diaries from last time and they weren't even looked at. I have assigned ds' dad, the issue of camhs and he is taking the role of lead parent. I avoiding giving it head space as much as possible as tbh I really can't face this again. The experience was so bad the first time.

coff33pot "mine was a star at it!" - this is really good to know. It is so nice to know that it is not just ds. Ds is a very bright little boy.

And he is very good at working out what the rules of a situation is. If there are rules then he is fine. If it is free flowing social integration with his chronological peers, then he has a problem. Eg in classroom ok, break time is a problem. We will have to see what happens this time. Am considering the private diagnosis route but ex wants to see what camhs has to say