I Hate Birthday Parties

[CheeseToasty]

1. Because ds normally does not get invited. I always feel award at school when they are being handed out and hope ds does not notice that there isn't on for him.
2. Because when we do I get to see how different ds really is :-(

I normally don't give much thought to ds difficulties in our day to day life as to us he is 'normal'. Aside from the constant appointments, daily programs, iep's, statements etc. But went we go to parties and I see him with other children it breaks my heart. I have been teary every since the one we attended earlier today. Children were unkind to him and he didn't even know. He had a great time. Dp did come so doesn't get it.

Thanks for listening. Needed to get it out because its eating me up. :-(

(((Hugs))) we're not at this point yet. I also find it hard when I see others of the same age.

Deep deep hugs to you. It hurts to see other kids being unkind to him and Ds doesn't even realise it. Maybe you can try and see that Ds is actually quite happy. It is ultimately his happiness that matters the most

Thank you both. I know that his happiness that matters the most and I am glad he had a good time. But he could be even more happier if they responded to him when he talks to them rather than giggle and mock him :-(. Of course now I am working myself up thinking about the future.

Thanks. I think its ironic that the so called ABLE are so un ABLE to be kind and considerate ect. I wonder if every day at school is like this for him?

I don't know if it would appeal to you, it's a 'Marmite' thing, but I had the autism advisory teachers do a talk about invisible disabilities and ASD at a Y1 level, to my DS's class when he was in Y1, with it being made clear that DS2 was affected, without him being present.

For him it made a huge difference, his class went from mocking him and calling him 'naughty DS2' to being really compassionate and protective towards him virtually overnight. He still didn't get many invites to small parties, but would always get whole class or all the boys invites. The parents also were made aware (by me) of his DX which saved me lots of cats bum faces in the playground. We may have been lucky with a nice group of children and parents, but it worked for us. It is pretty obvious DS2 has some sort of SN, not by his appearance but by his behaviour and voice, so I didn't feel I was divulging any information that would be best kept private.