Just a mini rant/AIBU in a way..

[devientenigma]

I have been stuck in my home for 3 year now with DS who refuses to do anything other than go for a drive but won't get out the car.

AIBU to think people don't understand the half of what it's like? How isolating it is? only DS and the computer to talk to day in day out. Not being able to do housework as DS needs constant supervision. Can't go shopping, so struggle to keep on top of groceries and meals. Trying to do as much as I can when DH gets in from work as well as the usual evening routine etc etc

AIBU to feel tired, worn out, alone, wanting things to change but also feeling if things did I don't know how to socialize, converse anymore.

Sorry just thinking out loud, no need to reply x

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. People just don't realise what goes on in our lives. For example; my hubby was talking to friends the other day re: our dd and her problems. They were so amazed and now understand why we don't socialise as much as everyone else does - it's because we can't. They only now realise (and even then they probably don't fully understand) just how isolated we are, due to dd's issues.

You need to have somewhere to release all your frustration and have found the perfect place here........we understand exactly why you're feeling this way. (((((hugs))))) coming your way.

Dev, yanbu . Bit like being a nun in an enclosed order, but without the company, peacefulness and public respect. And without having chosen it. Or in prison but without the trial and anticipated release date.

We probably need a forum open to housewives in Taleban-controlled areas, involuntary psychiatric in-patients and elderly housebound spouses caring for their partner with dementia.

Keep coming on here to vent dev, you cant keep all that inside without exploding

YANBU
Isolation is used as torture in some countries. In this country it is accepted that for some groups that it's just tough.

I think many people don't understand. I went through a short phase of this with ds a few years ago but he did at least go to school so I can't imagine how awful it must be for you as I know your ds is also out of school. I remember other people talking about their weekend plans and holiday plans and I used to pretend we had plans because I couldn't begin to explain that ds simply refused to go out. We spent one memorably awful holiday driving around with ds to various places whilst he shouted and screamed and refused to get out of the car. We would then go home angry and upset with one another. Our situation got better when ds started to take anti anxiety meds. We also now have more help so we can get out more though it is far from perfect.

thanks everyone, it was just bloody FB statuses, you know all this bad weather remember your elderly or disabled neighbours may not be able to get out....

well we are like that regardless of weather and no one ever thinks to pop by or see if I'm desperate for anything.

Suppose I was just feeling sorry for myself lol

cansu can I ask what meds?

I am really hoping our life turns around some time soon here's to hoping x