Relationships

[SarahandEleanor]

Hi,
Just wondered if any other parent who have been thru a traumatic birth experience and now has a special needs child, are having relationship problems? My dd is 6 years old and my birth experience has completely rocked my whole life, to the extent that I cant cope with anyone near me, not even my dh, we barely rarely even have a little cuddle, certainly nothing else....I dont know what to do, i dont have any feelings in that way, just fear and dread and a sense of not wanting to give off false impressions iykwim. We have spoken about all this at length time and time again but our relationship is just not a "normal proper" relationship...does anyone else feel like this? xx

I didn't experience this, but I think if things are not getting better you should seek therapy xx

Hi

I am sorry you are feeling like this. It sounds like you may be suffering from some trauma and stress related to your child's birth and the problems coping. I say may be, as I don't know you, but I do know that the feelings you describe are normal when someone has been through something which, as you say, 'rocks their world'.

Have you tried the Birth Trauma Association? Link here You may find some helpful info on there.