As title, I have an appointment (just me) with DDs MHW tomorrow. I am under strict instructions from a friend to be honest with her. I have a hugely bad habit of under exaggerating everything, underplaying, and generally making it sound like I'm coping, when I'm really not. So, I have to tell her exactly how bad things are/can be.
The two main things in the past week have been that I had to physically restrain DD during a meltdown at her dancing class, whereupon I ended up bruised and battered whilst trying to get her to calm down so as not to hurt herself and others, and a meal-time incident that escalated to her putting her fingers in her throat and making herself sick.
I'm not coping. I can't keep doing this. Each and every day is a struggle. I dread her returning from school, and even if she comes home in a good mood, I know it won't last. Meal times are a struggle more often than not, then I count down to bed time, knowing that it too will be a struggle more often than not. I've had huge signs from DD2 this week that screams how much this behaviour is affecting her, and damaging all of our relationships with each other.
I'm exhausted. I have health problems myself that the stress with DD makes my symptoms worse. It's affecting pretty much every aspect of our lives. I need to know how to deal with her.
Don't know exactly what I'm looking for by posting this. Maybe a little hand-holding?
Backstory: DD is 7, awaiting diagnosis for severe ADHD, have been told she is also "off the charts" for ASD, but plan is to treat the ADHD first and see what happens with the ASD symptoms.