School possibly reporting ds to Police

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Ds was permanently excluded and we were going to appeal this as his behaviour was purely down to his disability and we felt it was discriminatory. The exclusion was withdrawn at the last moment when the sm was amended to name another placement so we couldn't give our views on this.
One of the reasons given for exclusion was an alleged 'assault' when he tried to grab something from a TA who refused to let him have it and then grappled with him. I have now obtained a copy of the records and it states that ds was to be reported to the Police over this . I don't know if this did happen but surely the school should let the parents know if this is the case? Also, is it common for schools to report autistic children to the Police for their behaviour?

They probably planned to have a chat with the school's police liason officer. And s/he would clearly have told them to get a grip advised them about the legal definition of assault. Hopefully someone sensible in the staffroom advised the 'victim' to spare themselves the embarrassment of wasting police time.

DS2's school asked me if I'd give permission for the police liason officer to have a chat with him as he had been hitting out at people when he had a meltdown and had been denying that if he did this outside school it could be classed as assault. DS2 has Asperger's, so in his mind, only the police would know this for certain. It worked a treat, no more arguing over it and we could all say with absolute finality that it was something he couldn't do. He was 14 at the time.

I agree with maria, but what Lara says also makes sense. A word from the right person may work.

The school doesn't have a police liaison officer and it wasn't the victim who wanted it reported but someone high up at the school. They obviously don't know the legal definition of assault but numerous staff mentioned it e.g X had 'clearly been assaulted' and 'I did nothing to warrant such an assault'

my 10 yr old lad is diagnosed with asd and possibly adhd which he is waiting to be assessed for, when he has a meltdown its awful his dad has to restrain him at times, but what scares me is he threatens to stab or kill people, he even grabs a brush etc at times and will do the actions of stabbing right at someone, (at me mostly), i am his biggest target for some reason,
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one day i was very worried for my other 4 children's safety as they are mostly younger, one being 2yrs old and wanted my lad with asd to understand what would happen if he did ever stab someone, so i took him to the local police station and told the officer to have a word and and show him what he would go through, so he firmly spoke to him, and locked him in a dark cell for half a minute, and he cried his head off, it did seem to do the trick for quite a while but it eventually wore off, but i do remind him if he doesn't wants to go back in the dark cell to calm himself down, i know it must of been a scarey thing for him, but it would be far worse if he was taken away and locked away for a very long time,
back to the topic you were talking about at the start of the thread,
my son broke a ta's glasses once and has reg fits at his special school but luckily they can calm him quickly, but before he went to the special school he is at now, he went to a mainstream school and he got into all kinds of trouble, not having enough staff to control him,
he hit one of the staff and my lad came home saying the teachers were going to go to the police but it never happened,
at a special school they expect aggression so its more accepted, but at mainstream schools they put the aggression and violence down to bed behavior and not s-needs, and it doesn't make a difference if you get them diagnosed they still think its bad behavior,
anyway i am waffling now sorry about that : )