Feeling positive

[PrinceRogersNelson]

Last year was a really hard year. Realising that DD was not simply developing slower than she should be, but also that her development was disordered. I spent so much time being envious of other people's families. Not wanting to see people who had children the same age who were NT as it was too painful, wondering why me.

I have realised in the last few weeks that is lifting. When people talk about what their kids are doing (and it is so much more than DD is doing) I don't have that pang of jealousy, or a feeling of being kicked in the guts.

I think I may be starting to accept the situation and it feels like a relief.

Just wanted to write it down really.

Hi similar situation. When my son turned 5 it really was a turning point, although obviously we have been aware for a long time. Do you have a diagnosis? I am hoping for one v soon and I think this will make it easier to handle situations with school, family, everyone really. I have my down days but I am fascinated by my son's development and sometimes when I talk to the other 5 year olds, I think boring lol. My older son at that age needed v little input from me. I don't mind a challenge but of course I would change things in a heartbeat if I could. Is she your first child?

She isn't second. I have an NT 6 year old. She's 4. We have a diagnosis of speech and language disorder, moderate learning difficulty and hyper mobility. They were pretty much plucked out of the air tbh. She has problems planning and processing essentially. They don't really know which box to put her in!

What diagnosis are you expecting? Do you have anymore children?

Hooray !

I have two boys age 9 and 5. The younger one has been assessed for ASD inc ADOS. I will get results very soon.

PrinceRogersNelson, that is really good to hear, how long did it take to move into acceptance? Sometimes I hope I'm there already but then comes a day when I'm not again...

Prince, I am finding it less painful to be around NT 4 yr olds. DD is a delightful little girl. Am finally accepting she is who she is and instead of obsessively googling in a desperate attempt to find some reassurance she'll be "normal" eventually, I am focussing my energies on helping her achieve her potential.

Am glad you feel positive and relieved.

I think you will always get pangs of what might have been, but I think in some ways my pleasure at any tiny little step of progress or milestone met is so much greater with my DS2, and my pride in his achievements is so big, that I think it compensates somewhat for those pangs of envy.