getting the ball rolling

[bananananacoconuts]

Hi All.
Started a thread last week and because of the great feedback, i have started the ball rolling to get help for my ds(6).

After what i thought was a successful meeting with his class teacher on friday, i was left disappointed yesterday. One of my main concerns about ds is his anxiety, he needs constant reassurance but recently confided in me that he feels silly asking anyone other than me if he's ok, hands ok etc even though he feels very unsafe and worried(his words) at school.
To cut a long story short, discussed him at length with teacherand she agreed that we need to take it further. She has left a message with school nurse and said she would have a chat with ds and come up with a secret signal that they could have when he needed reassurance but no one would have to know.

Ds came home from school and said that teacher had not spoken to him. I asked her this morning and she said she hadn't had chance! But will do it today, she did add that he waslooking at her quite a lot though. So i already geel slightly let down.

I know i'm waffling.....so my question is basically.......i think i have the ball rolling at school, do i also make a doctors appountment, or wait for school to assess him? Bearing in mind his anxiety and other behaviour has previously been dismissed by doctor? I have kept a behaviour diary for a week now so if you do think a doctors appointment is necessary, how long should i keep the diary before i present it to him!?!

Thanks in advance, sorry i go on...

Go to the GP. You'll wait forever for the school.

Just one thing before you do. Search for symptoms of ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and any other developmental disorders and write out a list of all that your Ds displays, with one or two real life examples written next to them. Add this to what you submit to the GP.

I would go to the GP and tell the school you have done so. For some reason the school get a lot more proactive in my experience if you have spoken to a GP. If the GP reccommends a referral for your DS, tell the school, and maybe take it to the medical/welfare officer at the school, or someone like the additional needs leader.
I have had different problems but found talking to the ANL who is the deputy head at dd's school to be more helpful as they tend to ave a little more free time to take 5-10 minutes out of each day just to talk to the children and make them feel at ease... This morning the deputy head came in and I handed my dd over to her, she was going to spend 5 minutes distracting her from my leaving. The teacher and the TA had been far too busy last week and the deputy head was involved in 3 of the 5 meltdowns my dd had. It was a preventative measure, and one which meant I haven't worried as much today as she was settled when I left!
It's just an example of how maybe involving other teachers or members of staff in the preventing anxiety getting worse than it as to can work.

I wish you all the best with your DS

if bananasand's CT has left a message with school nurse then I don't see any real dragging of feet, here? I think the CT might be lacking in confidence, prob needs support from school nurse and the school nurse needs to crack on and make a referral but obv needs to be filled in on the situation.

Still worth making that diary for about a month and if there is little movement on a referral then (?by half term) I would consider revisiting GP?

Thanks very much for your replies. I have decided to make an appointment with gp and take my diary along. I did as starlight said and made a comparable list of symptoms and he does seem to fit the bill for adhd and possibly aspergers.
Handywoman, just wanted to say that CT is certainly not lacking in confidence. She has taught at the school for 30 years and explained to me last week that she has helped many children to a diagnosis.

I just wondered whether going back to the gp would help to speed things up further as this whole situation is getting worse for my ds