DS and bullying - how to help him cope?

[neverputasockinatoaster]

I've written before about my DS and the fact that he is being bullied at school by a weasel (sorry but my feelings are strong about this) who finds DS's reactions to 'teasing' funny.

I am logging all incidents, DS is under strict instructions to tell an adult about ALL comments, 'teasing' etc but DS sees this as such an intrinsic part of his day that he rarely tells anyone except me.....

I am trying to give DS survival tips. He listens to me but does not seems able to think clearly enough to follow through at school. I've tried role play, notes in his pocket as a physical reminder etc. Trouble is that I don't have any more ideas. I see DS getting so upset and getting into trouble over and over again for hitting, growling, shouting etc.

School know about the little weasel, the little weasel's MUM knows and is supportive but no matter what happens to weasel boy the buzz he seems to get from DS going Kaboom! seems to over ride the sanctions he receives. Other mums think DS is just being 'over sensitive' (well DOH!) and that he needs to 'toughen up' and learn to take a bit of 'friendly joshing'.

I just want to grab weasel boy and shake him until he leaves my DS alone but then there will always be another weasel boy waiting to step in..........

How do I help my DS?

Put some tokens in one pocket. Tell him that every time the child upsets him to transfer a token from that pocket to another one. You can monitor more closely then.

If you think this will work and other mum will support it, - At the end of the day, both get sweets/money/time-token minutes on favourite whatever but weasel boy has to hand over the equivelent number of whatever the rewards are to the number of tokens in the 'incident' pocket.!?

If he's able to do this, tell him to shout loudly 3 times 'Stop That' and if no adult comes to his rescue push him out of the way.

Thank you all.

I like the tokens idea as it might encourage DS to NOT react externally as it seems to be the reaction WB craves. Somehow the buzz he gets from the reaction over rides losing playtimes, losing his computer time, being soundly bollocked by his dad.......

I have also got a very small stress toy somewhere - I wonder if DS could be persuaded to squeeze that in his pocket instead of yelling and growling? Then he's release his anger but WB wouldn't get the reaction he craves.

PolterGoose - I make no bones of the fact that I think WB to be not very nice. I tell DS he doesn't have to play with him, I tell DS that WB is NOT being kind asking him to play............ DS looks at me like I'm bonkers and then says 'But Mummy, WB is my friend.' and then I take a deep breath andtry not to cry.