AIBU to think this is bullying?

[everynameistaken]

DS just home from school (yr8). Played football today, said he hated it because he was in goals for the whole lesson with the rest of the 'big' boys kicking the footballs at him. DS is quite small for his age. DS has previously been put in a team for rugby where the other side were all the largest boys in the class.

I've had a couple of run-ins with the PE teacher already this term. DS was being kicked and punched in the changing rooms. PE teacher lied gave his version of events, saying he was always in the changing rooms. School found out he was lying leaving the boys to their own devices in the changing rooms and bollocked reprimanded him.

PE teacher then has a go at my DS saying "if you've a problem don't go telling tales to your mum", shouting at him in front of other children. Again, I complained that you do not tell a child not to confide in their mother!!

Am I reading too much into whats happened today? Got the distinct feeling PE is getting his own back on DS.

Quick update - DS has just told me that the 'big' boys were yr10's!!!

Oh dear, that sounds rubbish , your poor ds.

I think it is vile when teachers have a go at children for speaking to their parents when somthing is worrying or upsetting them. I do think it probably is a form of bullying but I hate that word and think it has become over used and is not taken seriously anymore.

I have no advice for you other than to speak to the HoY or form teacher.

Good luck

thanks *ineed Need to calm down a bit first because I'm too cross at the minute.

Saw Dr Keen on Friday and she was heavily hinting that this is not the right school for DS, because of difficulties he's having socially. This is just another nail in the school's coffin I think.

I agree, it sounds like you might need to look elsewhere.

You definitely need to speak to someone though, personally I would write rather than ring, then you are creating a paper trail.

Either that or ring and then follow up with a letter confirming that you have spoken to someone and what was said.

I used to send a photocopy of any letters that I wrote so that the HT knew I had kept a copy.

Good luck

I would also think this PE teacher is completely out of his depth and taking it out on your son. Your poor DS. What is the rest of his school day and overall schooling like there?

Why was he with Y10s in that PE lesson?. That seems unusual to me.

I would be having a word with both his Head of Year and his Pastoral support person for that year too. Have a face to face meeting asap and follow this up in writing.

I would also now be looking at other schools.

BTW does your DS have a statement?.

Yes he got a statement and we then moved him to a language resource unit (he had a dx of SLI).

We've now taken him to see Dr Keen who diagnosed ASD and suggested a specific ASD resource unit, as the questionnaire school sent back to her showed he is showing significant signs of not coping there.

Apparently he was with year 10's because it was an 'options' day - that's all I've managed to get out of him.

He just splurged a load more details about he is constantly being bullied, name called etc etc. He's just in the process of taking his frustrations out on his sister so I'll have to go.