How the actual bloody hell is she ever going to sit (or pass) any exams?

[TaggieCampbellBlack]

DD is 14. Year 10. Aspergers.
She is on a reduced timetable but is supposed ti be doing GCSEs in 3 sciences, 2 english and maths. She is bright and could do well. Except she won't/can't.

She will not do any sort of homework. Ever. What she starts ends in throwing books around and shouting. I cannot suggest she does homework or revision without a massive tantrum and stuff getting broken.

She has a long and tedious history of school anxiety/refusal/phobia but since September has turned a corner and been going without too much fuss.

But how is she to ever face exams? There is no way she will get down to revising on her own. She won't let me help her. She is completely unable to plan and work on her own.

That is before we even get to the actual stress of going in and taking the exams. I can't see her doing that at all.

Which brings us to after 16. What the bloody hell will she do then?

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is anyone involved with her at school to address these issues taggie?

it sounds like she might benefit from some sort of structured timetable for homework but this is outside of my remit

Hi I have DS 14 - ASD/ADHD?dyslexic we do a mix of HE tutors and school - For revision we have been watching videos and he takes notes in picture form - very effective. We use learnerclouds.com as much more detailed and cover our exam board well better than bitesize but surprising what videos available free on youtube.#

Ok, firstly most secondaries do quite alot of revision at school now so you might not need to worry quite so much.

My Dd2 who is bright but dyslexic and not academic managed to pass most of hers just on the work done at school.

What about the computer? There are revision sites like bitesize or similar, many of our Dc's love doing stuff on the computer maybe you could get her to do half an hour a day or something.

I agree with others in that she may not need to do that much if she has a good memory.

I know that you need to be thinking about what she will do next year. My Dd2 had her interview for college in February last year.
Does she have any idea what she wants to do??
If not why not go on a few 6th form college websites and look at the courses available there is a massive range.
Try not to panic though because many of Dd2's friends didnt even register with their colleges until September because they didnt know whether to stay at school or not.

I would go in and see the SENCO and find out what revisision is actually being done at school and whether there is any provision for her do do extra at school.

I will go through all this again with Dd3 because she cant work at home either.

Good luck

Thanks.
I need to talk to school (again).
Options for post-16 are limited (geographically). The future is looming and scaring me.

Does she have a statement? If so and if the SEN bill goes through by 2014 then will extend education provision under a statement potentially to 25. This will hopefully make it easier to argue a child with SN can sit GCSEs later. Often children can do the exams, just due to delays etc they are not ready to do them by 16.

So there may be colleges where she can study for GSCEs later - same as others who fail them do, or stay at school until 19. Sometimes college is a better environment than school. Or what about online study / part time college/ taking fewer subjects and spreading over more years. There are lots of options. Staying on at school will soon be compulsory to 18 so there will be lots of children who have failed courses at 16 retaking etc and schools are going to have to adapt to this.

When she is 30 it will not matter if she took them at 16, 18 or 22. What matters is she is able to fulfil her potential.

If she doesn't fit the system then the system needs to adapt to fit her.

If it helps at all, I never revised for exams at all (in a very exam based and no course work time) and managed to pass them all. I was never described as bright either.