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Letter to DLA HELP!!!

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misdee · 19/04/2006 09:35

this is for dd2 reconsideration. i need to post it friday and am struggling.(it will be spell checked etc)

I am writing concerning my daughter Lauren and why i feel she is entitled to Disability Living Allowence. Lauren is a very complex child who is showing signs of Autism Spectrum Disorders. She is on the waiting list for a full assessment at the local hospital. She has food issues, speech problems. eczema, allergies, sleep issues, low muscle tone, walking problems and finds understanding her surroundings very hard. She doesnt process the fact the rubbing her face on wood=splinters, she just likes the feel of it. She doesnt understand that jumping from the top of a ladder or the top of the climbing frame= pains and injuries. She doesnt understand that biting someone means that they get hurt. Afterall, Lauren doesnt feel pain so why would anyone else? She is voilent towards my other children and myself. I find it hard getting anyone to watch Lauren as she is so unpredictable. She has beaten up her cousins and some of my eldest daughters friends. She doesnt sleep, and spends over 3hours at night screaming. She wakes up her two sisters and myself. I have to gate the kitchen as she gets in there and plays with the appliances. She floods the bathroom. She falls over all the time. Untill recently i was using a buggy for her but she is now too big. She has a bath step and seat on order from the Occupational therepist as i was lifting in and out of the bath. She has also ordered her a seat for the table as she falls off the chairs constantly.

Lauren has NO road sense. I cant let her run ahead like i did with her older sister at the same age. She runs into roads regardless of cars and other road users. She has run into the roads countless times, which means i have to leave my oldest child at the age of 6years old, in charge of her baby sister whilst I go to get lauren and ensure her safety. She has run out of shops forcing me to leave my other two children with strangers whilst I go and catch her. She is just not safe. I have tried wrist straps and reins. reins worked well but once again she is too large for them, and i cannot afford to get special needs ones. Lauren also falls over in the road as well as on the pavement. So i end up carrying her across roads to keep her safe. At the age of 3 and half years old she should be able to cross the roads safely without me carrying her.

She recently suffered a full allergy skin reaction. She was covered head to toe in an unsightly rash. We ended up making an emergency trip to the out of hours GP as I wasnt sure what to do. She was given regular doses of piriton and the rash took 7 days to go. Her eczema got worse and more creams needed to be applied. Lauren doesnt feel the itching as much as other children do, and doesnt see why she has to tell me when she is itchy. She will just scratch at her skin till it bleeds, so i have to check on her regulary and she also wears special pyjamas to stop her scratching at night. She has nightly baths, creams applied before bed and also at least once a night when she is ithing and scratching. She also needs baths during the night or cold cloths applied to the sore area. She wakes up most morning with cracked and bleeding skin where she has managed to scratch. I reapply creams in the morning and throughout the day.

The falling over is our main concern. It puts Lauren and myself in danger. She wants to do things like other children do, and i feel i have to let her to aid her devolopment. But she needs constant supervision all the time. She falls off climbing frames, climbing up to the slide, walking down stairs, walking upstairs, walking generally. She has seen the physio who has diagnosed low muscle tone and we have strengtheniung exercises to do daily, which we spend 30mins+ on.

Laurens food problems are escalating. she wont eat certain texture of foods and survives mainly on bread, pepperamis, sausages, crackers, hula hoops and curry. She gags on food and vomits as well. I have tried everything to get her to eat more foods, but when faced with a vomiting child shaking with fear over eating, thwn what can i do? She also gags when brushing her teeth. Its all connected with her sensory issues.

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misdee · 19/04/2006 09:53

anyone?

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macwoozy · 19/04/2006 10:11

Sounds good to me.

You mentioned that she hits you and the family, does she also hit out at other children when you go out? If so, add that you have to constantly supervise her when out to prevent her from hurting others. Would she put others in danger as well, for instance my ds wouldn't hesitate to push anyone from the top platform of a slide.

When she's awake at night do you have to constantly watch over her to prevent any danger to herself, make a big isssue about that.

tobysmumkent · 19/04/2006 10:13

Misdee - this seems pretty thorough...the only thing that I would say is people have drummed into me the need to insert "key phrases" into everything - to really spell everything out. So could you add the "no sense of danger" phrase in the first para? And maybe "injured" instead of beaten up her cousins?

Plus "lack of co-operation" in the second para about being out and about? And a sentence stressing her need for constant supervision at a more intense level than a child of a similar age....stress the comparison. I know that's what it all says, but I'm totally paranoid about spelling it out to the form readers!!!
Also that you expect the resolution to the food/sensory problems to be lengthy and slow....(sorry, that sounds harsh, but I hope you know why I've said that - my son also has problems like this, and I'm not expecting a fast solution!).
But, like I said at the start, it seems very thorough and detailed. I'm sure it'll get the message across.......wishing you so much good luck, fingers crossed and thinking of you all!!

coppertop · 19/04/2006 10:39

I would also add lots of comparisons to other children of the same age. Use the dreaded phrase "A normal child.." over and over so that they can see that she is not just being a typical 3yr-old,eg:

"Lauren requires constant supervision because she frquently falls over. [maybe give a rough figure for this, like 10 times a day]. She even falls over while crossing busy roads, making her a danger to herself and others. A normal child of Lauren's age is able to walk well and without constantly falling and injuring themselves. Lauren needs one-to-one attention so that she can be lifted quickly out of the road and carried to safety.

misdee · 19/04/2006 10:48

all good stuff.

i am also sending i na diary which i kept for a week.

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Cappucino · 19/04/2006 11:04

when I sent in dd1's dla application I downloaded something from the net as a guide, (I've looked now and I can't find it for you - doh) and everything was about the amount of time that you spent looking after children that you wouldn't have had to do with non-disabled children. I think a lot of your letter is great, I would big up the physio tho' a bit more than you have, and turn around the paragraphy about the itching so it shows first and foremost all the faffing about and extra care it causes; they don't really care that you had to go to the docs unfortunately - it's all about what you have to do, every day, on a normal day. They also put a lot of store by what you have to do at night, so I'd go to town a lot on the extra care she needs at night.

BearsMum · 19/04/2006 11:42

Don't have time to read all comments but I would suggest you approach your local CAB (I am a new volunteer adviser) as they will assist you in completing the form and are very experienced in knowing how to present the information in a format which the DWP find appropriate. The often deal with DLS applications/appeals etc. I would suggest you find out their e-mail address as it can be difficult to get through by phone and ask for an urgent appointment if you have a deadline. I hope this helps.

BearsMum · 19/04/2006 11:44

of course I meant DLA, not DLS. Sorry to confuse.

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