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[Crawling]

Someone slagging off a mum they met in a park thats not the problem what is the problem is the mockery that she has a child in a pram that she thinks is to old for a pram. All I keep thinking is to look at my dd doesnt look disabled and is too old for a pram but needs to go in one to minimise her distress and I keep thinking the child this person is talking about could also be sn. She is also complaining about the childs behaviour

I. can see a unfriend happening but before I do that do you think im being over sensitive?

I think somewhere we need to understand that the people who do not have sn kids or sn people in their family think typically and may have no idea about what sn are. The same friend might show a lot of understanding/politeness/compassion when she knows that that child has sn. the trick is to try and put yourself in their shoes. I changed dramatically when I realised dd has sn. Prior to that I could have been very judgemental, on occassions cos' I had no exposure to sn world

I have pm her and the comment is down

I think people should understand that the world is different and not be so judgemental of others without getting the full facts first but then I have never seen pigs fly or blue snow.

Personally whether the child has SN or not it is no one elses business if the mother puts child in a pram regardless of age. It would be so good if people didnt stick their opinionated noses into other strangers lives.

Why people consider themselves so perfect is beyond me. Horrible human trait I suppose.

Not in mood lol as you can probably tell for tolerating the ignorant. x

Glad she took it down :) you are calmer than me lol

Glad she took it down. Fwiw, my dd2 was in a buggy until just before she started school ( so 4 and a half), she is nt, but we walk a lot, she gets really tired, and we were all going through a very difficult time, so she would have major tantrums over all sorts of things, leaving me stood in the middle of town, with a crying 5 year old, screaming 1 year old and dd2 lying in the middle of the pavement, refusing to move. There really is no point in judging such things, because ultimately it is nothing to do with anyone else.

Hi crawling tbh a few years ago I maybe would of looked at a child and thought to myself wow Dc is either tall for Dc's age (to be in push chair) or even Dc seems a little old for push chair, or even that it must be for convenience( Dsis used to do the same with nt Dnephews either to get from A to B as quickly as possible or if it was a long walk - to save their little legs ), I would never of made any comments or given any of "those looks" just a passing glance then moved on. But now knowing what I know now I don't even think at all because I am a little more clued up.

We can't expect everyone to know what we know, as frustrating as it may be take for example my Ds had a major meltdown on a bus one day just as we were getting off because he was trying to collect rubbish (something he does when everything has just gotten too much during the day ) which escalated further when other passengers started to laugh at him, part of me felt angry because of what was happening to him because of this but then part of me didn't blame them for what they were doing because....how are they to know? he certainly doesn't look like he may (no Dx) have sn.

You could either try pointing out why this Dc may of been in the pushchair (indirectly open friends mind to other possibilities), ignore (very hard at times I know), or unfriend...just take a little time to calm before you decide.

Blimey!! it took me that long to actually finish my post (also cleaning my windows...or rather should be ) its all done and dusted!

itsallscone your poor ds you took that much better than I would have. sometimes it feels like people with experience of sn have been given a greater understanding and knowledge and other people just can't understand alot of the struggles we go through daily.

True. I only have the energy to focus on helping my Ds at times like the one above, although I must admit if it were someone a little closer like a family member my patience wouldn't be so good. But at the end of the day we have greater understanding and knowledge because we have learnt everything we possibly can about our own dc's sn and (if your a google queen like me ) probably a lot more about other difficulties along the way.