Trying to get my head around this

[santaclaw1]

Am in the process of going through core assessment of SW.

It states that core assessment was completed on 21/11/12, chronology ends there too. But includes lots of information of dates and events which took place after the 21/11/12, the latest being 12/12/12.

So this proves that core assessment was not completed on the 21/11/12/, but on 12/12/12. So why would it state it was completed on the 21/11/12?

SW raised it to CIN on 22/11/12. How can a social worker raise it to CIN on 22/11/12, if the core asssessment hasnt been completed until 12/12/12?

'SS have a duty to carry out core assessments for children in need'

ha ha. My ds has a disability and a statement but no CA.

You don't 'progress' from core assessment to CIN.

CIN is pretty much what your child is, regardless. It's like being told your child's staus has 'progressed' to 'disabled'. SW might use language to imply progression but it's all bollocks. (just returned from a really horrible sales pitch from a diamond resorts guy who made me realise that bollocks-speak caring carot stuff is not reserved for LA professionals.).

I haven't read all the thread, but I think you are still in high-adrenaline fight mode, having won a small victory and knowing that you still have a way to go, looking for something to challenge and get your teeth into.

I think the whole SS thing is not worthy of this level of attention or detail. Sops all the way there. Polite and calm redressing the inaccuracies and ignoring the rest should be the plan. Try not to stimulate any further communication or meetings. Be out when they want to come or have meetings. Offer dates WAY into the future as an alternative and where you feel safe too rearrange when they get close.

Keep, my posts since October he was not a happy boy, he was having a mental breakdown. November i took him GP because his mental state was not improving and signed him off. Once the pressue of having to return to school was removed, his state of mind improved.

Brood on what issue?

Star, quite the opposite, i am out of victory mode and into deflated mode.

The SS is not worthy of any attention, its pointless and its not helping anything, other than SW's actions making ds worse. Ds is petrified of her, after her visit. My 16 year old is also walking on egg shells, that ds might say the 'wrong' thing and he will become the centre of the issue again.

I saw SW just before Christmas, she is then trying to arrange a visit for the 3 Jan, i told her we have a meeting in 6 days time. She is now emailing me again, i want to come today.

Ignore the email. If she complains tell her you aren't on your computer much as ds needs your attention. Ignore the phone. If questioned say you keep it on silent so as to not interupt your work with ds and you check your messages now and then, but you do open your post every single day and she is weclome to write.

I didn't mean you were gung-ho to get into a fight btw. I just meant that your mental state can't possibly be level after all that has happened and you probably need somewhere to channel it. Better to go for a run, than call up the SW and give her the bollocking she deserves - is all I meant.

claw - don't let yourself get tricked into being over-defensive eg 'he was having a mental breakdown' - do you have this in writing, is it a professional opinion or your interpretation? (and don't shoot the messenger )

I do understand that the effects of chronic stress (in DS1's case multiple verbal and physical tics) can take some time to recede but they do recede in response to the level of stress encountered on a daily basis. When DC are attending school they have 5+ hours of 'stress' to unload each day. When DC are out of school the amount of stress they encounter on a daily basis is much reduced even in the context of completing school work at home and a background of 'abstract' pressure with infrequent direct pressure. So since October DS has experienced much less 'stress' (acute but infrequent) than he would have experienced had he been in school.

To DS1 if he does not have to do something right now the pressure is immediately removed - his state of mind/level of stress is related to his day to day lived experience - what happened today - rather than an imagined future - what may happen tomorrow. That's what I mean by 'brooding'.

Star, you are quite right, im far from level headed at the moment! As i said before the continous pressure, add to that lack of sleep, the strain is starting to show, I need a break

Keep, i used the term mental breakdown on here to describe his behaviour, it was a lot shorter, than describing all of his behaviours, every time. More me being lazy and not wanting to type the whole thing! Mental breakdown to give you some idea of just how low ds was. I have never seen him like that before.

"To DS1 if he does not have to do something right now the pressure is immediately removed - his state of mind/level of stress is related to his day to day lived experience - what happened today - rather than an imagined future - what may happen tomorrow. That's what I mean by 'brooding'"

To ds that is how it used to be right up until June, remove and level of stress falls immediately.

However after i returned ds in September his level of anxiety and self harming really escalated. He started scratching again, but he also started to hurt himself in other ways, that he never did before and had thoughts of wanting to die etc (although he never told anyone about this in September)

By October, he started to tell me what he was doing, ie cutting himself with scissors in the bathroom (he was already smothered in cuts from scratching), hitting himself with my hairbrush in the bathroom etc (i contact CAMHS to chase up referral that was made in June, got told it got lost, got my GP to fax another copy etc)

SW then interviews him in school, he shows her injuries, tells her the same thing and A&E.

Following this, ds had his 'mental breakdown' he was withdrawn, not wanting to interact, shutting himself in his room, lining things up, breaking down in tears all the time, not eating, not sleeping, not wanting to leave the house, and self harming anytime school was mentioned.

November his mood wasnt lifting as it normal did, i had never seen ds like this before. I took him GP, GP agreed sign him off from school until CAMHS assessment finished and plan in place.

I told ds he wouldnt have to return to school until the adults had sorted this out. Mood lifted, he started to get back to 'normal' again.

Now ds is his happy 'normal' self again and the only time he displays any of the other behaviours is if a return to school is mentioned by outside proffessionals. ie social worker, EWO etc during home visits.