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DS (8) has ADHD and tic disorder. How do we tell him?

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MyFabulousBoys · 05/01/2013 19:08

DS was diagnosed just before Christmas. We need to talk to him about his diagnosis, the school have told us they will be speaking to him about his IEP in the new term. He is aware others find it easier to sit and not call out (is always in trouble for this) so I think being aware there is a reason he struggles will help but I don't think he has much awareness that he is "different" IYSWIM.

He is very intelligent and wily and quite able to use this as an excuse to get out of trouble which we really don't want, he is also so very suggestible so we don't want him to stop trying or act up thinking he can't stop himself. Mainly though, we don't want our amazing, funny, loving boy to feel any more different than he already does with his tics, or to feel any worse about himself than he does (given the amount of times he has been told off for things it seems he can't control like others can).

Any tips? Any advice? We go to TH clinic and he does eye tracking and co-ordination exercises and has a healthy diet and food supplements so he does understand that he has to do stuff other kids don't but I think he thinks it is all to do with his tics.

Help! We feel out of our depth here and are aware this is a very sensitive moment.

Thank you Thanks

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MyFabulousBoys · 05/01/2013 23:12

Thank you so much Poulter. I have ordered that book. I often joke that DS is my spaniel! I think it will help him relate to the disorder. I will be matter of fact, I just feel so worried about this and worried about getting it wrong. I think we are still coming to terms with it ourselves.

Thanks againThanks

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MyFabulousBoys · 05/01/2013 23:13

Polter even. SorryBlush

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TheAccidentalExhibitionist · 06/01/2013 09:51

Myfabulousboys we waited until it came up naturally.
I was in the car with him when he asked why he was different and a bit mad compared to other children. It was the perfect opportunity to explain about ADHD. My son was so relieved to have a name to why he felt different and it was a good opportunity for us to reassure him that he was a completely amazing human being and not at all mad.

We talk to him regularly abut it as he gets frustrated with certain things and we can explain things to him. He did use it as an excuse in his school but they soon stopped that!

We had a book too given to us by his psychiatrist but TBH we couldn't get my son to focus on it long enough for us to read it with him Grin.

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