major meltdown over xmas dinner

[piglettsmummy]

dd (2.4) had a major meltdown at dinner despite it being blended. had to take it back and attempt to purify food that was already a puree just to seen if she would have it. we finally finished dinner 30mins later with mist in me some in the carpet and a little in her tummy! she's never reacted like this before and not sure why it was so bad she was kicking screaming trying to make herself sick etc so gutted as this year she understood the concept of opening presents etc (even though she has no idea about Santa ) was hoping today would go without a hitch but think my expectations were a little high

Is it because it was a roast on a non-roast-day? Or at the wrong time of day?

Dd refused to eat her dinner, but scoffed a huge bag of cheese balls.

nope round the same time and we don't have set days for set meals. she's on a 'bad day' anyway we knew when she got up

Too many expectations/pressures round 'the big meal on the big day' perhaps? Try not to dwell on the meal bit, sounds like you had a lovely time with the presents, etc. ((hugs))

probably yes we had a lovely time opening the presents but after the dinner fiasco we have had a horrible day, spent 3 hrs barely being able to. all to her because she cried if we did Hopi she wakes up in a better mood tomorrow

Do you know my love, I just had a little cry remembering exactly the same situation 4 years ago. DS would have been 3, had a total meltdown, it all escalated and we ended up abandoning Christmas dinner and putting him to bed

BUT then I went up to say goodnight to a wee boy who has had a brilliant day, coped beautifully with his excitement and tried a bite of potato at dinner. What changed? Us. Well, ok DS has grown and matured. But I realised having this 'conversation' with you just how much we build our life round his needs. And it may sound a bit 'woo' but one way to make things better next year is to write down what went wrong this year and try and put strategies in place. So for eg, we always eat at home, at our normal time, I never feed DS a 'Christmas dinner' but give him something I know he likes, we downplay the meal bit totally when talking about Christmas etc etc. Next year will be better (if you plan) - I promise. X

thank you wewilson I hope many things will be different next year have a lot of trouble feeding her especially in public she gets a 'mad head' whenever were out we are awaiting a SALT assessment and I have a gut feeling she has sensory processing disorder which would probably explain why sh didn't cope too well . I felt so gutted that I cudnt make of an awesome day and she got so distressed by it but like you suggested I will definitely plan next year and do it differently I am just learning to plan around her needs hope you and ds had a good Xmas x