Dev9aug - I'm not sure what it is, to be honest. But some things which I've noticed about her behaviour don't, to my untrained eye, sit neatly as language issues.
For example, she came home today from the pantomime and said 'Cinderella did look like Miss X (her teacher) but she didn't have golden hair.' DD2 always identifies people by their hair. She rarely describes or indicates how they look, but she always comments on whether their hair is the same as someone significant to her. She doesn't seem to notice their appearance.
I saw a boy approach her yesterday. He clearly said her name and walked towards her smiling as she entered the classroom. She just looked at him, blankly, for about 3-4 seconds, then simply turned away and walked to the cloakroom. There were no words, no facial expression, no greeting of any sort...just nothing.
She's got odd language, yet she's so precise. When I said that DD3 had hit DD2 with her feet, DD2 said 'Mum, was it actually her bones?'
I'm not bothered with how the issues I'm seeing are identified, as long as they are identified, I was just wondering what the significance of 'high-functioning' was, and I guess also wondering why language is the determining factor of diagnosis.
Handywoman, I'm not sure the language issues are only just being flagged, tbh. I think that a) her school don't see it because she simply doesn't say too much and she is young. b) her preschool thought she was copying DD1 whenever her behaviour was unusual. For example, she always played alone. Always. But preschool decided that was because she had sisters at home so didn't need company at preschool
. c) We thought she was developing well because DD1 is so behind, but now that DD3 is developing, we can see how different a NT child is.