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yawningmonster · 06/12/2012 05:18

Ok I think the thing to do is just keep my big nose out but wanted advice....

DS is only 8, he has been friends with a little girl in his school since they were new entrants together. Not really a close friendship but somewhat of a one sided idol worship. He has always talked of her as the one who he will marry.

Today he said this..."When people ask Y, she says we are friends and I said is she just shy to tell them we love each other and she said yes. That means she is a bit like me I think and I love her even more"

My concern is she is rather shy and would not have the courage to say anything to DS if she doesn't actually like him. She has never given any indication she is even more than friendly (she doesn't ask for play after school, doesn't seem to seek out his company etc. She is really lovely though and would never tell ds to go away.

Anyway I know at this age it is actually nothing more than a wee crush but I am worried that she may actually start to feel really uncomfortable about the whole situation and also that if anyone told ds that maybe she is just friendly but not actually his sole mate he may be somewhat destroyed.

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HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 06/12/2012 06:53

I'm having this with mine.

I would think at 8 she very probably will be feeling uncomfortable about it Grin

My youngest is 12 and he has a close female friend and he said he's going to marry her and she was as embarrassed as hell!

I tell them that they are too young and at their age, people are just friends. That it's normal to think people look pretty but it's best to wait until they are about 17 before they start thinking about having girlfriends.

and that lead on to relationships being something BOTH people want, and not to touch anyone unless they have said they want you to.

Which lead to an embarrassing incident with my eldest who asked for permission to hug a friend of mine and then grabbed her breast.

Clearly I had not explained properly about permission and different types of hugs! Grin

Luckily my friend found it funny.

But it's a lot of work explaining it to them and if he's able to understand - it's time to start.

HECTheHallsWithRowsAndFolly · 06/12/2012 06:53

led not lead

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