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bastard school, bloody play

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blackeyedsusan · 06/12/2012 00:04

2 rehearsals this afternoon, for reception children?

I knew there was something wrong when I saw him through the window at pick up and he did not want to be looked at.

biting screaming kicking carried out of the school playground hitting and screaming....

what can I ask for to make it easier for him. he does not have a diagnosis. ados in 9 days... results later I think. we have another week of this to go, then parties and santa and all sorts of stress for the poor boy. he had a melt down on the way to school for a school trip day too.

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Walter4 · 06/12/2012 07:23

I have the same worries but school is good. If I were you I'd keep off sick!

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Scottishdancer · 06/12/2012 08:04

Yes we have same problem. Play rehearsal, pantomime, party it is all too much for someone with sensory problems. He had 2 days off last week and looks today will be 3rd! He was up until gone 12 last night worrying and is on his hands and knees begging not to go today.

SweetMingePie · 06/12/2012 08:06

Another vote for keep him off. Or ask school not to include him in the play, for someone to sit with him in classroom or IT room.

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blackeyedsusan · 06/12/2012 08:07

they are already complaining that his absence figures are nearing the critical level... (though that is due to a misunderstanding of statistics)

I think I will go in and see either the deputy or the head this morning.

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glitch · 06/12/2012 08:10

Oh I feel your pain on this one.
I guess it depends on whether you are hoping he will be in the play. The school are probably working on the idea that you will want him in it so at odds with you if you would just prefer him to be calm and happy.
Can you talk to the school and see if you can reach an unofficial arrangement about you picking him up early when rehearsals are or see if they can do some colouring / choosing time when the rehearsals are.

Learning70 · 06/12/2012 09:13

Hi request permission for authorised absence. I had a letter saying my son had a part in Xmas play the same week I was advised he was being excused from assemblies ... But the letter did say to let them know if you didn't want them in the play, so I let them know lol. Tbh it's prob a bit nicer than them suggesting he's not in it which happened last year

DeWe · 06/12/2012 10:19

Just a thought. Would he mind having a "backstage" job to do that you could as for? Or would the lots of people stress him out anyway?

For example at the infant school they always have a collection for charity at the doors on the way out. They get some of the children with smaller parts to do that. Would he enjoy that sort of thing? Or perhaps pressing buttons to start the music CD?

If he'd rather not be in the room at all then I'd keep him off because I'd bet even if he's not in the play they'll think he'll watch.

nibsy · 06/12/2012 22:09

I understand completely. I'm shocked by the amount of time my DS (ASD) in reception is spending practicing for the nativity. I didnt realise I was sending him to a stage school !! He cant cope with it at all and is shouting out instead of sitting quietly and watching the older kids say their lines. I'm thinking of keeping him off. So difficult to know what to do !

coff33andmintspies · 07/12/2012 00:47

I kept mine off last Christmas it just was not happening. He did tolerate a single assembly so how in hell they expected him to done a costume and face hundreds of parents! He was grey by the end of the week with no sleep and worry.

Funnily enough the pattern is brewing this year and its a new school and they are not forcing him but the mere hearing the singing and acting all through the halls is enough to give him the jitters just incase they suggest him joining or watching.

Just let the school know its too much upheaval for him surely they must be able to see that if he left school in such a state poor mite x

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blackeyedsusan · 07/12/2012 14:39

he is only 4 so other jobs ae a bit difficult. he only goes on for the last 2 minutes anyway. (the "naughty" children get to come in lasst at the end, though it is better for him)

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Walter4 · 07/12/2012 18:30

School nativity was today, he had no pressure to perform at all from school, they walked all children on to stage ,it was very calm and organised and short , and he actually did it!!! Of course I was sobbing so only saw the blurred version!!
So pleased for him, and grateful to teachers for enabling him to cope!

shazian · 07/12/2012 20:03

I would keep him off, ds is exactly the same, has never been able to cope. Way too much going on and has huge sensory issues. I have already arranged with the school for ds to be off on mon which is dress rehearsal and tue day of show. They are 100% behind me though is special school so possibly have more understanding than mainstream of the problems our children have.

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